my friend is known for lying and making up stories to get attention but now she has gone to far she has made a noose in her room from the roof and says she is going to use it and when i tryed to take it dwn she threw me out im realy scared she hasent comtacted me in days butshe has been out and about but i dont want to se her get hurt she wont listen when i say she has everything to live for she sed she would do it in 2 weeks an keeps texting me saying if the week dosent go well shell do it. anything could push her over and im terified what can i say to stop her.
2006-12-05 05:21:00 · 37 answers · asked by xxx_gothic_queen_xxx 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is a terrible drain on you and not really much of a friend at all. To share this with you and then not contact you is very uncool.
She is very depressed by the sound of it. She needs professional help since all of this attention seeking is a cry for help- even if she does not actually try to kill herself this sort of morbid behaviour is not an indication of a well balanced or happy individual. Speak to a teacher or adult who will listen. If you are not being heard you should find a organisation which deals with teenagers in your area or health care professionals and get them involved. Failing that call the police. It is important you get help for this girl. She has raised the alarm and has forced you to take responsibility for her life now since she has shared this with you. Good luck I hope it all turns out well for you (and her)
2006-12-05 05:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It does sound like attention seeking, but not in a "bad" way. I had a friend who continually said she was contemplating suicide. She was also a self-harmer with no desire to cover up her wounds. My gut feeling is your friend won't go through with it because she's made such a big show of it (That's not to say you shouldn't be worried though). But you really do need to tell someone, because genuinely suicidal or not, she needs help!!
Telling her parents or telling a teacher is probably a good idea. Your school (if you're at school!) may well have a counsellor who can talk to your friend and find out what is really causing her lying/suicidal nature. She's being so dramatic that I suspect subconsciously she wants to be found out.
The other thing you can do is to stick by her and keep reassuring her that you like her as she is and you care about her whatever. If she lies, it's probably due to low self-esteem, feeling no one would care if they knew the truth.
2006-12-05 05:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Helen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her off, and tell her if she does it then she is a coward! Stop ***** footing around her maybie she needs to hear how selfish she is bieng, tell her how hurt you would be and how hurt others will be......BEEN THERE in EXACTLY her position and the only thing that worked was a short sharp shock, If you call the police do you think it will stop her NO if she wanted to kill herself she would have done it by cutting her wrists or thaught of quick ways.
IT IS a cry for attention, tell her unless she takes the noose down, your not going to do a damn thing, and you wont talk to her no more, but if she does, you will be a closer friend and try to help her through her problems.
2006-12-05 10:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by nurf_man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it all depends on why she wants to kill herself..!! Try and talk to her calmly about whats on her mind ...even if she sounds like an attention seeker still confide in her as it may clear her head if you talk to her correctly...Unless she has just lost a child or something then there's not much you or anyway can say to sort that one out..!! OK there are options as people have said like speaking to her parents,police etc..But that is not all ways the best answer as it may push her to do more harm than good..Decide yourself how critical the matter is then go with your instincts....at the end of the day even if she was an attention seeker its still a cry for help.....Goodluck...x..
2006-12-05 05:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Simon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so unfair on you. It's hard I know. I had a friend that attempted suicide twice. Thankfully she failed. She spent some time in a secure unit at a local mental health hospital. At the least this enabled her to see a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist. She still attend psychotherapy and she has been prescribed medication.
Why don't you try to get her to see her GP to instigate some help. You could offer to go with her.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 05:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by personwithgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a cry for help and perhaps you are the one that she is asking to help her. Serious suiciders do it quietly and often with consideration for those that might find them. Unfortunately many cries for help go wrong and the attempted suicide become real suicide.
Perhaps you could try to pry out of her what is making her feel so wretched, might take time to get to the bottom of it but first try to find out who it is that might be the problem. Go to her parents or partner straight away and it might be them and her feeling of betrayal might tip her over the edge, on the other hand you might get it wrong.
If I was in your position I would be using my gut feelings about the situation and in any case find a professional help line you can call anonymously (they are almost certain to be so) and get some guidance on how best to handle it *in their opinion* and take it from there. The yellow pages or telephone book is a good place to look for local numbers or search the Internet but whatever way speak to a real person about it.
2006-12-05 05:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin E 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a lot for you to carry around all that worry and it isn't fair to YOU. Tell her parents, a school counselor, your parents, whatever will help you unload the worry and your feeling responsible to try to prevent her from harming herself. You really can't do more than tell someone that can help her and even then she will ultimately have to decide if she wants help. Threats of suicide are often a cry for help whether it is also a cry for attention or not. It's too much for you or any one person to carry.
She may get angry if you tell someone, but do it anyway.
It's the best way to help her and to help YOURSELF.
2006-12-05 05:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like its another one of her ways to get attention. However, things like this shouldn't be taken lightly. If you think her parents would do something about it then why don't you call them. If you think they will just brush it off let someone, maybe a school counselor or police officer know. Talk to your parents and see what they think. Maybe they know someone to contact about it. Good Luck with everything. I hope you or someone can talk some sense into this girl.
2006-12-05 05:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by momof2wonderfulkiddos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that you make the right people aware of what your friend is telling you so that she can get help. Even if she is just making up stories and she doesn't intend to harm herself. Her behavior is a clear cry for help. Tell her parents. Talk to the school counselor or any other adult you trust so they can help you manage this situation. Good Luck.
2006-12-05 05:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's seriously considering doing it... she needs professional help.
If she's just doing it for attention... she STILL needs professional help (there is a deeper meaning behind that behavior)
Talk to her parents if you could, you know what type of people they are.
Talk to her yourself if you could. Make sure she knows you will always be her friends and that you care about her.
If you can't talk to her parents or talk to her yourself, contact the police. Tell them your concerns...they can investigate and get her the help she needs. You can do this anonymously if you wish.
I hope everything works out fine.
2006-12-05 05:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by I scream for ICE CREAM!! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋