omg i am so shy and there's this guy that i really like at work. alot. im 16. how do i get his attention or atleast let him know that i'm interested? please help!! its hurting me!!
2006-12-05 04:56:02 · 15 answers · asked by banana_split 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u just need to change ur mentality so that u can see the Positive things instead of the Negatives.
the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting comfortable around ALL BOYS, even ur CRUSHES!, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-12-07 10:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will have requested this question a number of instances, now, are you particularly anticipating a larger reply or are you simply last your eyes to the reality, perhaps the cause that anything stops you speakme to him isn't just your shyness, perhaps it is that deep down, you experience anything is fishy, with this man, your middle desires him, however your head says NoNo No No. I believe the pleasant factor you'll be able to do is realy compare the info of the challenge,actually infront of you, yeah the best way he's appearing might sound and think like he likes you, however does he particularly? How lengthy has this been occurring? Are you definite he isn't simply preserving you placing on, simply incase he can not get the only he particularly desires? If he particularly desire's you, why preserve you at palms duration for goodbye?Unless, he desires you as again up. Is that particularly the variety of dating you desire? If you must chase him now, what makes you believe you are going to ever seize him? although you probably did, would you be definite you received him?But, alternatively, perhaps he is too younger to particularly recognise what he desires, or does he, why else might he desire to preserve you placing for goodbye?Think approximately it, you are shy correct? Do you permit that quit you from going after anything you particularly desire?No,good enough, I wager you could say good I like him, however I can not cross after him, however is that shynes the truly cause that's preventing you from speakme to him, or is it anything extra that's making you think shy?Is it viable that you just particularly think that he likes you? If you probably did particularly feel it, then you definitely might don't have any hessitation in jogging as much as him and beginning a talk, however when you have doubts they might get on your manner, feel me I recognise, this character right here speakme or typing to you is a character who is aware of what it approach to be shy, and the knoweledge that anybody likes you offers you the arrogance to move forward and converse with them, and this man too might recognise that you just like him, that might even be a cause why he might desire you to preserve you placing on, incase he would use you someday(perhaps one day) for now the curiosity is not robust ample. Think it by way of, permit this man develop up a little bit then see if the emotions are the equal, in a at the same time, in the interim pay attention to your schoolwork you can be completely satisfied you probably did, the article is are you making definite or are you simply prolonging and deepening the harm emotions you are going to have from all this? Love ya kiddo
2016-09-03 12:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, sweety! It's ok to be shy. I won't tell you to suck it up and approah him, cuz I am shy when it comes to certain guys as well. What you should do, if you want is be creative. Guys like that unusual approah. Like maybe record a song that indicates you like him and give it to him. Or, buy a small gift with chocolate(or any thing sweet) and have poem for him. You could always get a co-worker or friend to help you out. Either way, he'll defenitly appreciate it. Probably won't be able to resist saying yes!!!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-05 05:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing that I can tell you is get out of being shy. Cause it won't take long for the next girl who has a crush on him, to step up and take him. Then you will go on wondering why you never did anything. I was always shy too. Trust me do something. Flirt, talk, ask him out, do something before the next girl does.
2006-12-05 05:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Msranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally a guy is flattered to find out aa girl is interested in him. You don't have to worry about the same kind of rejection that a guy would if the situation was reversed. I can't tell you exactly what you should say or do, but I can say that you might be surprised at the results if you set your fear aside and tell him.
2006-12-05 05:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky for you, you are a girl. Just bump into him (literally), and strike up a conversation that way. I know it's hard, but it could work.
I'm a shy 20 y/o guy, and I've been lonely without many friends and never had a date my whole life. Get into it now before it's too late.
2006-12-05 04:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to think you should go to him when no one else is around and just express yourself.
I know this is hard for a shy person but if you don't reach out he may never know.
Try saying hello.
2006-12-05 04:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just BE YOURSELF! and start a normal conversation like, hi...i'm... work sucks today huh? or smth like that and progress from there. do not act like somebody else because you are a unique individual and any person who does not like YOU for YOU is not worth spending any time with. if he wants you to be phoney in the end it will be YOU who will end up miserable. you are a unique person. be confident in yourself (not cocky or arrogant) but confident. all the best dudette!
2006-12-05 05:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date anyone from work. You're only asking for trouble if you do....unless, as a wise person once advised me, you're prepared to leave your job if it doesn't work out.
2006-12-05 05:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell, i'm 24 and my shyness kills me at times. writing helps me. when i email or text message. have any mutual friends? try to get a way to hang around him and maybe a conversation will start on its own.
2006-12-05 04:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by tomiyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋