Anyone got any ideas? Or been in that situation before but now happily married/in a relationship?
2006-12-05 04:55:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my experience...we had a relationship...I fell in love with him..he didnt feel the same way..we ended it...I was devasted..i hated men...I didnt want to be bothered with men....I was so hurt..and lonely and depressed...I played sad love songs to heal..after a while of this stage...I realize that I need to work on me..and that I didnt have my life together yet..and how can I have a good man and have a meaningful relationship when my life is not complete..I went back to school...got my degree..got my current job..and with all that I thought that he would still want me..but I was wrong..he could care less..any way I stopped looking..I didnt want to date..dont get me wrong I was asked out soo many times by different men....i was celibate for about11/2 yrs...I just knew that I wanted a serious committed relationship and dont have time for games...AND i left it up to god..when he was ready for me to be with someone he would send them my way...so I stuck to that..and now I am with my curent guy....and I hope that our relationship last.....so dont look..occupie yourself..try to take care of things that you should have taken care of long time ago..may be get your drivers license..go back to school..etc..he will find your..your paths will cross..and that man will love you for you..and you do the same love him for who he is...gooood luckkk....
2006-12-05 05:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, what a question!!! But it seems to be a popular one with many women.....ur not alone!!! Yes, I am one of the lucky one's.....very lucky in fact (even though I'm currently pissed at him now, lol). I was married b4, had 3 children, left him after 16 years. When I finally started to date again, I fell madly in love with a man I shouldn't have! He was emotionally & verbally abusive but there was a part of him that was so kind, caring, loving & attentive---that's who I fell in love with. I knew right from the start that I should have ended it much earlier but I didn't have the strength till almost a year later----then I got him out of my life, for good, even though I still loved him!!! Was one of the hardest things I ever did but I survived. I then took 18 month's off of dating. I knew I was "emotionally damaged" from this man. I knew I had baggage that I didn't want to bring into the next relationship so I took the time off.
I felt just as u did & never thought I would find a great man. When I felt I was ready for a new relationship, I was kinda joking around & prayed for a particular type of man. Low & behold, I met that man 2 weeks later. I didn't realize at first that he was the man I prayed for (& I'm not a particulairly religious person, but I have my beliefs) but when I did, I was so thankful. I guess I had been thru enough **** in my life to have such a specific prayer answered.
So, I guess, my answer to ur question is be patient, give urself time when needed, understand that u r a whole person without a man---u don't need a man to define ur existence, maybe pray a little & allow time to take it's course. We all have to go thru the bullshit in order to learn not to repeat the same mistakes. Stop looking, be casual about it, make sure u don't have past baggage that may interfere & sooner or later, HE has to come into ur life. Till u find him ,enjoy ur freedom, enjoy ur life. I wish u the best hun!!!!>>>>>>>ZETA!!!
2006-12-05 05:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up. If you close the door you will not be able to open the next one. Try looking at other guys, you may find the wolf hiding in sheeps clothing, which is what you seek. Go out and meet guys by talking to them first. If you wait for a guy to talk to you, you will be old before you realise it and will have missed some of the best years of your life good men are everywhere, find them on the street and in the supermarket. Damsel in distress will help weed out the wrong men for you im sure.
2006-12-05 05:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was single for 2 years after a bad break up with the father of my child. I had a negative outlook on men and thought I would never meet a good guy. I recently met a awesome, great, HOT guy when I was least expecting it and we have been together for a few weeks now. It is going great. So there is hope for you! You will meet a guy when you least expect it. Don't go looking for love, or you will just get hurt.
2006-12-05 04:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything worth while takes time but it also takes hard work, dont wait for the man of your dreams because thats where he will always be in your dreams give every guy a chance cause in life not all that you want is what you need. So be patient he is on his way and take from a guy we are never on time !!!
2006-12-05 05:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by jose d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee !!!!
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try to meet new fellas thru 360 or chat rooms. u have 2 b real careful but it is almost certainly the best way as u can find someone immediately who has similar interests.
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2006-12-05 04:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i have, had the worst relationship which empowered my life and wrecked me, but iv grew and im stronger it was awful without detail, i thought i cud never trust, never get close to, another gut but i met someone a few weeks ago and im falling for him hes amazing, it happened wen i didnt expect. dont go looking for it it will come to you, there not all idiots altho sometimes it does seem that way. just love yourself and be happy with you, keep your heart locked up till you know its for real. dont give them too much of you till your comfortable and trust. good luck! i want an invite to the wedding!!! he he x paris
2006-12-05 04:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 years old and met the man of my dreams (finally) last year. I never gave up believing I'd find Mr Wonderful and never settled for Mr Good Enough.
2006-12-05 04:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will do. i didn't meet the right one for me till i was 27. despite being reasonable pretty, good personality etc i always struggled before then because of my low self esteem. guys i did meet either wanted to be friends or used me. there really is someone for everyone..hang in there.
2006-12-05 05:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to make your self happy before you go looking for someone to make you happy. Stop whining on the net about not having a man.
2006-12-05 05:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by cutecamille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋