Why do people?

Question

Think because kis are homeschooled they don't know how to do things like other kids? I am homeschooled I went to public school until like 7th grade then went to Christain School for 8th and now this is my 2nd year I think of homeschooling.I know how to ineract I'm just shy.So why do people think we can't do stuff like others?

Answer 1

Please ask your home school supervisor for additional help in spelling and sentence construction. You are in serious trouble if all of your written communication is as poorly written as is your question.

Answer 2

(1) Everyone is different, and that's a good thing!

It doesn't matter where you are when you are learning,
because everyone has different environments, backgrounds, and experiences, so everyone is going to have different skills
they develop before or after the next person does. That is true
of anyone from any school, class, or culture. You cannot compare any two students, even in the same classroom or
school because each person is different. This is an advantage, not a disadvantage because you can learn more from each other this way, than if everyone was exactly the same.

(2) Be open to share, explore, and learn from others, who may be just as shy about getting to know you.

I used to be so embarrassed around native Vietnamese because I don't speak the language, that I would shy away. But instead of judging myself, I decided to confront it head on approach it the other way. When people ask, I ask them for help to teach me.

Once they know I am open to learning, they are very friendly and we even laugh that I am so illiterate, worse than a little kid, that I cannot even count to 10 without getting all confused (3 numbers all start with B so I get those mixed up, which is funny to me).

(3) People who judge others usually feel judged themselves, and are projecting their own insecurity and doubts.

Just make sure you don't judge yourself or others, but try to focus on the strengths in each person, including yourself, while you work to improve areas of weakness. When you don't judge yourself, but give yourself credit for identifying your faults and working constructively to improve them, then other people gain the same confidence from your example.

Instead of worrying what other people think, remind yourself to think positive thoughts of yourself and other students, and recognize the best talents and interests in everyone. I find that if I have a positive attitude toward people, they tend to have the same. But if you worry that they are thinking negative thoughts of you, they will often pick up your "vibe" and think you are judging them.

The initial fear is usually mutual, but so is the process of overcome it in time and learning to appreciate one another more fully.

Answer 3

I am assuming your question is about people assuming that, because you are a homeschooler, you must be socially backwards, when in fact, you are really just shy and would be shy even if you were still in public school.

It's human nature to try to categorize things (and, yes, that includes people). Homeschoolers are not the only group that suffers from prejudice (from the Latin for pre-judge). Everyone suffers from some form of "profiling". When we assimilate new information, our brains are wired to connect the new with the old and look for patterns.

It's really just simple logic. If all the old information (no matter if it's true or false) says, "all lions are maneaters" and I'm staring at a lion, I will assume it is a maneater and run. In the same way, if I repeatedly hear that all homeschoolers are socially inept, when I meet a homeschooler, I will expect them to be socially inept. If they aren't, all I can do is try to fit this new, conflicting information into my already-wired beliefs about homeschoolers.

The old saying, "I'll believe it when I see it" has it backwards. For most people, the truth is, "I'll see it when I believe it". Since it takes time to change people's beliefs, don't expect anyone's opinion about homeschoolers to change even in the face of overwhelming evidence. Until they begin to believe that their thinking is wrong, they will never see that their thinking is wrong.

Are there socially inept homeschoolers? Of course, just as there are socially inept public schoolers and private schoolers. That doesn't prove anything to anyone. Don't worry about how other people see you - their opinion really doesn't matter, especially if they aren't going to take the time to get to know you.

Answer 4

I've been homeschooled all my life and have none of those problems people claim that homeschoolers have. Maybe they're just jealous? Who knows? Eh well. It'll get better in a few years. Just ignore them for now.


I even asked a question like this a while back but all people could come up with was "well, in public school children will get a better education." LOL. I seriously have to disagree. Just look at today's society!

Answer 5

I don't know, out of the many dozens of families I know personally that homeschool, and hundreds of families I know through online support groups, I know TWO that I would consider ignorant of the world. Most know how to slip into what I consider worldly ways, but they are disdainful of it and don't see the point. Perhaps because they haven't been socialized like PS'ers into believing that the status quo is the most important thing in the world.

I don't even know any SHY homeschoolers, except now you I guess. People assume you are shy because you are homeschooled, not thinking about all the kids who coast through high school being invisible or bullied because they are shy. Shy people are everywhere....it is all about personality, not setting.

Just chalk it up to inexperience. Ironic, eh? They accuse the hs'ers of being smallminded and bigoted because we're not exposed to the world, and yet, they haven't been exposed to enough of us to form an unbiased opinion. They rely on odd TV shows and newscasts that show one or two people out of millions, and there you go...'all homeschoolers must be like that'

anyway, gotta go live...

Answer 6

I don't know why people are like that. I'm going through the process of getting my child homeschooled and he's not anti social nor is our family. I know of ways to still allow him to be with children his age, but most people think I'm a facist pig because I want to teach him at home. I want the best education for my child and the school system here isn't so good, why shouldn't we be allowed to do it if we are willing to??? I hope you encounter wonderful people in your homeschool adventure!!! Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Because they are judgmental, and rude about something they themselves are "uneducated" on (note sarcasm about those rude people) homeschoolers are just fine do not listen to any harsh thing those people say... so go get 'em and prove them wrong!!!!!! Oh and if you need any further info on home school... Home School Legal Defense Association has been a helpful website for me to look info up on (HSLDA)

Answer 8

People mock that which they do not understand.

People insult people they are fearful of.

Things that are not the cultural norm are not trusted.

Also, there's a difference between being shy, and being slow to let people into your life. When you get to be an adult, the skill of being able to screen people before letting them in will be a huge asset. Just be who you are, and do your best to ignore what people say about you - good and bad. Just be who you are. And know who you are. You are not an "ex-homeschooler" You are you.

Good luck. :)

Answer 9

Becuase that's life for you. Full of idiots.

Answer 10

I don't know but it's stupid that people think we can't be social or anything.