What do you guys think and how can i stop thinking about it?

Question

Here is my story,

IOn April of this year my b/f proposed to me. His parents live in west coast and i always wanted to go there, my b/.f knew that, and he never wanted to move even when his mom asked to, however since he knew i wanted to move he said ok, but only if i moved with him. He got a good job as a teacher. A few months ago i notice something differnt, i mean we girls know when something is wrong. Well besides that, he always told me that he was in trouble and doing things he was not suppose to when he was younger, n he felt that god would not forgive him for those things n that he always thought he was going to die young. i founded out he started taking to a lady that has a kid in that school, he promised that he just depres needed some one to talk to, i broke of the engagement, but i forgived him after all, i know he loves me, but i cant seem to forget! What should i do?

Well the thing is he was talking to this person behind my back, and when i confronted him, he denied the whole thing until i showed him prove, i mean i knwo he loves me, and i understnad some times one just need to speak with some one that knows nothing about you, but that really hurt me, and i try to not think about it but some times i cant help it. He has given me access to his cell, to his email to everything to gain my trust. I broked off the enagement but when he told me he was depress and he was going to some emotional issues i couldnt just leave when he need me the most. Now i find my self thinking about what happend and its hard for me to trust him again. What do you guys think ?

By the way i am very secure of my self, and i think pretty mature as well, this is for the person that make that comment before!

Answer 1

Well if he is just speaking with this women then there is no problem sometimes people look for other to share problems with then thier spouse.... Now if you know he has cheated on you with this women then yea leave him alone... But I think he just spoke with her because he didnt want you to think any less of him for what he has done in the past but remember what happens in the past should stay in the past no good will come from judging him now just lobe him and speak with him.

Answer 2

It's not clear from what you say if he's cheated, or just talking to the woman.

I have no idea why you included the information about being in trouble or dying young. Is that pertinent?

If he's just talking to the woman, then you have serious insecurity issues. If you feel he's being unfaithful, then he's being dishonest and your actions are one way of handling the situation.

It would help if you actually stated what was, what you suspect, and what you want, more clearly.

Answer 3

Well only you know if he is trustworthy enough to forgive, but only time (and him kissing your +ss) will restore your thoughts back to where they were. I mean if he got depressed again is he going to run off and talk to a stranger rather than his fiance whom he wants to spend the rest of his life with? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself and or him.

Answer 4

LOTS of love in life. 30 - 40 - 50 - 60 year olds fall in love and get married.
Don't sweat it. You did the right thing. You can't live with HUGE regrets.

Answer 5

If you can't seem to forget this, break up with him. You can't punish him forever by holding on to his mistake. Either you forgive him or you don't- it sounds like you don't.

Answer 6

first talk to him about it thats the first thing if you feel like you cant then just mvoe on youl find some that wount lie to you

Answer 7

grow up a little bit. you're not mature enough to even think about marriage.

Answer 8

Is sex involved?Why are you upset with him axactly?Is he not allowed to talk to anyone?I think your worrying about nothing