ive been with my bf for a while . we each have a kid. and i would love to marry this man. but its like he dosent even want to talk about marring me. i know he is faithful and im the one for him he has told me i am . but he wont talk about marrige what so ever. what can i do.
2006-12-05 04:51:28 · 18 answers · asked by aleisha21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing that you can do. You both have to want to get married. If he doesn't, you can't make him. Just don't live with him and play the role of the "wife," without being the wife.
2006-12-05 04:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 01:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by archuletta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone into marriage. And being married to someone who doesn't want to be is an even worse situation. Perhaps he's been jilted in the past and isn't ready to make that serious of a committment yet. Find out the root of why he doesn't want to talk about marriage. That could explain a lot.
2006-12-05 04:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a two way street and I wouldn't waste my time with anyone who isn't on the same page (concerning marriage) It's not like he entertains the thought but feel like you need more time)......he just flat out refuses to talk about it.
He's leading you on and this is his tactic...avoidance!!!
It's working so he's going to keep using it until you confront him.
He doesn't want to leave you but he doesn't want to commit which equals a big waste of time for you.
Make him at least address the issue or you should explore other options. Don't waste another moment.
2006-12-05 04:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok, he is prolly just nervous, he is a guy and in his eyes buying a T.V. that he cant return. lol. but me and my bf have been together for 3 years now and arent even close to talking bout marriage. we decided about 2 months of dating were getting married, but i just want to be older and know that i am ready. tell him how much you would love to marry him and get a convo going on it, or just do what he wont, PROPOSE!
2006-12-05 04:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to talk about it, then you can safely assume that he is not considering it. What you can do is accept a date with another man. If this guy objects, tell him you won't be exclusive with him (or sleep with him) unless he is willing to talk about marriage with you. Honey, this sounds like a dead-end road to me, if you are honestly and sincerely interested in marrying one day.
2006-12-05 04:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was married before he may feel that marriage would jinx things between you too I would not worry about it to much marriage is nice and all but it rapes you come tax season besides after being in a relationship for 7 years your already considered life partners and thats all marriage really is right
2006-12-05 04:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Adam T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to talk about it and communication is a large part of a relationship!
maybe he don't want to get married so don't get mad if he don't the talk is to express how each feels about it!
if your all excited and trying to get a ring! he may be saving your feelings by not talking about it! so put your emotions out of the picture!
it may help!
start off saying
all my emotions aside because you know what i want!
but What do you want? do you want to get married not nessarry to me but is that a goal of yours? tell him to be honest only if you think you can handle hearing stuff you don't want to! <-- not always the case but if it happends don't go off on the deep end! this is a talk not action!
Well good luck!
2006-12-05 04:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything's going fine..why spoil it? marriage is just a piece of paper...honestly, you should only get married for legal reasons...maybe he is not that into you? if that's the problem then you should move on............cause if he was he would tell you that he wants to marry you? maybe he is not ready.
I would not push it..give him time and if you pressure him he might just run.
2006-12-05 04:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to talk about marriage, and you want to be married, find another man.
2006-12-05 04:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋