I have been at my present job for around 1 year now.
But still i struggle with people. even though i feel i work hard i dont feel part of the gang.
Even though i cant be certain i feel i am not thought well of.
I do struggle to get on with them ,But i dont do football and i dont care how much money someone has . any ideas?
2006-12-05 04:48:55 · 9 answers · asked by vdgeest70 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Some jobs are just full of bankers.. If your not accepted try being controversial for a change and see how that goes. Worst case is you get another job but at least thats better than working with bankers!
2006-12-05 04:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Just be yourself. Maybe you've been trying too hard. A lot of people interpret that eagerness to fit in as being fake or square. If you can just relax and be your normal self, you'll find that you have other things in common with your co-workers. And even if you don't if you're more calm and comfortable people will still accept you as an alright guy.
2006-12-05 05:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want try bringing in donuts or cookies one day, see if that brightnes other peoples spirts on to yours.
If that doesnt work just do you work, do it good and make sure everyone else knows that you do your work good too. You are not at work to make friends. Just show up, do what your told, go home and enjoy yourself. alot of people are stuck up, find real friends and dont worry about anything outside of your friends and loved ones.
2006-12-05 04:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by c=bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your job and go home. Keep your distance and you'll probably get more respect. Continually attempt to be with them and like them and they'll think you're a joke. You don't need to hang with people who judge others by how much money they have - do you?
2006-12-05 05:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by personwithgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your still there after a year you are doing something right dont worry you dont have to be part of the crowed if you dont want to work place people are not nessarily friend dont worry they probably think your shy just listen to what they talk about and if its intereting join in if not dont
2006-12-05 04:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to feel a bit like that at my job, its because i always imagine people are thinking negative things when they are really not, as soon as i accepted that i am not a mind reader and decided to be polite and take my luck as it comes every day, not regulating or judging anyone except myself, everything was fine.
2006-12-05 04:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read "lucky's" response. Couldn't put it better myself. I did the same thing and I'm much happier now.
2006-12-05 04:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hang round with them then.
2006-12-05 04:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jon B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself... thats all you can be. we dont realize it, but people perceive us as we perceive ourselves. just relax... dont worry about it, and youll be one of the gang before you know it!
2006-12-05 04:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles_n_ar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋