My bf stays far aways from me. We are having a real serious relationship. I have been seeing him every month flying all along. He too enjoy when I am there, but he never comitted me. He is having sex with me. I cant take any other guy in my life. I am an indian attitude girl.This is the guy I have given my virginity, my womanhood, my love, my care.I cant live with out him.He says he is not getting the feelings for marriage.He says he has respect for me.But again he came to meet me and ask me to give a ********.I love him and I can do anything for him.How can I convince him or how can die? I am sure,I cant live with out him.He means a lot to me.I am not in his place also. If I explain he gets confuse,he says why god is not giving me some feelings then.He likes fair girl,I am not dark,but I am wheatish Indian with a smart look.I am very well settled in my job so as he. We make a perfect couple looks wise. Just that I have few 5 to 6 facial hair.His concerns.I love him and dont wan 2loose
2006-12-05 04:42:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sound like your having a hard time with your man. You have to think to yourself, yes you love him with all your heart and he was the special one who you gave up your flower hood too, but you can't make him love you more them he already does. It's not good to push things on men, cause it just ends up going backwards. Give it some time, let him know ow you feel and ask is there is anything you two can do. Maybe your going to have to ease up on him and let him decide on his own time, never a good thing to be force-full, but don't forget about your feelings. I kind of when threw what your going threw, just a little different, and if you look hard enough and he's not willing or ready, then maybe it's not meant to be, an you can live without him, I did and I found my true soul mate and I couldn't be happier. We don't always get Mr Right the first time, sometimes we have to go threw a couple bad ones before your really rewarded.
2006-12-05 04:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by HotTherapist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry over spilled milk, you have made your choice and he has other plans, this is not worth anyone life, this has nothing to do with the color of your skin or race, you took a change with someone and they are not returning the feelings, you say you are smart looking and well settled in your job don't let an *** of a man spoil that for you, you will love another one day and that someone will love you back.
2006-12-05 12:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy is worth DYING FOR(epecially under these kinds of circumstances). If he doesnt love you as much as you love him, then you can't blame him. If he can't love you for the great person you are (not that I would know), then leave him.
No male is worth dying over, and some aren't even worth the tears. I have a lot of Indian friends, and they are some very fiesty people. You are stronger than you tihnk you are, so live on and forget him.
He's a user anyways.
2006-12-05 12:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you must make sure, you understand him and he understands you. Love is itself a wondreful bond and it does not need any physical relationship to make it strong. I believe that after you had physical relation with him you became so emotionally attached to him that you lost the ability to decide what you should do next and how to convince him to marry you. Unless he is not playing tricks on you, he definitely needs to spend more time with you to discuss about the problem. God definitely gave him the ability to love someone and since he is having physical relation with you he must feel some attraction for you. But the problem is : he is so confused. This confusion will be resolved only if you can make him understand how wonderful it would be to spend the rest of his life with you and your kids...how exotic it would feel to share new dreams together...a new life together
2006-12-05 13:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Simplicity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you really need to take a breather and look at the situation from all angles. yeah, you may really love him but if you really think about what you said he doesn't love you and no guy is worth the feeling of killing yourself there is a whole lot more people out there that will treat u the way that you ought to be treated. you are better off without him. It may be hard but you will see in time that things will be better that way.
2006-12-05 12:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at my answer and read every single word
leila i need u to understand what im gonna tell u without cryin cuz nothin' deserve ur tears i swear by god that i can feel ur pain cuz i've been in a setuation that looks like yourz but i didnt cry for him and i didnt run after him do u know why?its not cause that i dont love him but i deserve to live after such aproblem he will live his live maybe sorry for sayin that but without even remember u...u should not kill ur self girl ...u should think before doin' anythin..i have afriend and she used to love a guy for 9 years not 1 and ahalf and when he left her she cryed alot do u know why?cause she gave him everythin even her virginity,and we're not indain we are arab and thats worst in those situations cause of her family knew about this story they would kill her ...we toke her out and let her never be alone ..last year we were havin' lunch when aguy from her old school came to her and asked her out,they started datin' then when she trusted him she told him her story he forgived her and they will get marry on martch so use ur head girl and do anythin stupid hes not ur kind hes one of those guys who come jus for fun...hes a player dump him before waitn for him to do that
2006-12-05 12:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself won't work..... Death is not an end.
Your body is WHAT you are IN, not WHO you are.
Clearly, if you would have to "kill yourself" if he left, then you COULD LIVE without him......
Next time, get the commitment FIRST... then the sex, if a commitment is your goal.
Who YOU are doesn't revolve around HIM..... get those thoughts out of your head.
Blessings to you.
2006-12-05 12:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way. When you two are together do you just screw? Or do you do stuff, like go out. Like walks in the park and movies and restuarants and stuff. The reason I ask is, he might be using you for nookie.
2006-12-05 12:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, don't take this too far. No guy is worth doing this to yourself. You're too good for someone to treat you so badly. Move on.
2006-12-05 12:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, but it is obvious that this guy is not worthy of your affection. Move on and forget him. Yes it will be painful, but staying will be more painful and more destructive to you.
I wish you the very best.
2006-12-05 12:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Faedra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋