I went on a first date a couple of days ago. He kept bringing up his exes throughout the entire evening. He brought up three of them how one of his exes was in a play with him, how another ex went to visit him, and how one he and his ex used to go to the same coffee shop that we were going to on our first date. I felt uncomfortable and did not know exactly what to say. However, I find it extremely rude of him to bring this issue up. I'm not going out with him again. I tend to be overly sensitive though. Was it rude or I'm I being too sensitve about it?
2006-12-05 04:38:29 · 21 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not being too sensitive about it--it's good you're cautious. I think I'd decline all future invitations and avoid this guy like the plague. He's definitely got issues, and you can bet that if you become one of his ex's (or is that trophies) you'll be the topic of conversation on his future dates. You probably weren't rude enough about it--someone needs to tell him to shut up. Don't get involved with this guy's dramas. That's a good one to pass on, don't you think?!
2006-12-05 04:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is proper dating etiquette not to talk about exes on a first date because that can turn the other person off and make them feel really uncomfortable, it might make them think that the other has not gotten over the other person and that there is still something going on. Let him know you understood that he was trying to be honest with you but bringing up his exes was not a good ideas so you don't hurt him. There are only so many ways to tell someone before you just have to come out and say what you feel sometimes that is the best way it helps the future relationship if there is one. If you feel he did on purpose then you should have cut the date short, he would have got the picture that way. You did the right thing by trying to explain that it was not necessary to bring this matter up. Some learn and some don't.
2006-12-05 12:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude and no you're probably not being oversensitive. Who wants to hear about the ex's when your the one he should be focusing on. I think you're doing yourself a favor by not going out with him again. But one thing to consider is, if you liked the guy, maybe he was just nervous and didn't know what to talk about. People make big jerks of themselves when they are nervous sometimes. Either way it is definately rude and I would tell him so to save him some emberrassment on his next date.
2006-12-05 13:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is rude. You can talk about them sometimes, especially when you are talking negative things but I would never go on a first date and say positive things about exes. That is rude. Makes you wonder why they aren't with them anymore.
2006-12-05 12:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was rude of him to do that. It seems like he's not over his exes yet. You are making the right decision by not going out with him again.
2006-12-05 12:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had no exs to talk about but to bring them up the whole time yes I would say that is rude...
2006-12-05 12:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Not Known To Me. The Voter ;~`}= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't over his exes. Best way to continue getting exes is to live in the past and keep bringing them up. Boring. Doesn't sound like he is ready for a new relationship or confident enough to have one. I wouldn't see him again either.
2006-12-05 12:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only was it rude but shows he has feelings for ex still. I would think really hard before accepting a second date offer.
2006-12-05 12:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he was rude..there is definetly time for that..or even if you asked him about past relationship..he could have simply cut it short and said something like we wanted differnt things in life so thats why it didnt work out...If you feel so strongly about it though I would stop calling him..or if you like him..wait for him to call you and when he ask you if would like to go out..say something like I dont think that your exes would approve..if he ask you what are you talking about..explain to him that he made u very uncomfortable talking about his exes..and just see what happens...I hate situations like that..it is soo hard to find a good one..you have to date tom dick and harry to find the one..and ladies and men when you do hold on to them...I hope that you find your special guy.
2006-12-05 12:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being sensitive but your date was being rude and he's a jerk.
Good for you not to go out with him again.
2006-12-05 12:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋