My bf and i have been together a long while and we're even considering marriage. The one thing that is upsetting to him is my family, friends, everyone knows he and I are together and my mother loves him. His mother knows who i am but nothing of our relationship we'e too scared of what might happen to risk it or risk us being broken up. We're both committed to each other and we want this too work we talk on the phone ever day im everyday and see each other when we can. Hell our phone bills have been $700.00 bux from him and me talking on the phone for about everyday for a month straight for a minimum of 2 hours max of 4 everday we really love each other.
2006-12-05 04:29:44 · 28 answers · asked by scryingcrystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
paint them black
2006-12-05 04:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by armond425 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First, change phone plans. The bills will kill you, I know. Been there, done that.
Second, eventually you'll have to let the parents know. I was very upfront with my parents within a month of dating the woman who is now my wife. They had some problems with it for a while. Somehow, once the first grandchild arrived, all problems they had dissipated like a puff of smoke.
I can't say you will have it this easy, but it's something you'll have to face.
Good luck
p.s.
We just celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary. Because of the racial differences, some at our wedding were saying we wouldn't last 6 months. It's been nice proving them wrong.
2006-12-05 12:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't worry about what people think, if you or him stop the relationship because of a family member then maybe you don't belong together... if he wants to marry you then it should not matter who objects to it, even if it is his family. not to be mean but, if you think about it his grandparents are old and probably wont be here for long it is part of nature, so don't worry about it live it up and enjoy him, it should not matter but just you and his relationship.. good luck and smile and enjoy life don't worry about small insignificant things that are not important.
2006-12-05 12:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by mariposa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your committed to each other it shouldnt matter how anyone perceives your relationship. You must either live your lives for yourselves or for other people. What do you choose? I wouldnt be afraid to tell anyone if I was in love with someone. This is 2006 and his grand parents as well as everyone else in the world would just have to learn to DEAL WITH IT!!!
2006-12-05 12:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but if you're talking marriage, you must be old enough not to be concerned with his family trying to break you up. If you're old enough to marry you should be old enough to weather a storm, even if it's a hurricane. He owes it to YOU, to let his family know he loves you- so he should break it to them gently and let the chips fall where they may. If they love him, they will set aside their reservations and accept the relationship- just as my parent's did when my brother married a black girl 8 yrs ago, so I can understand the tension involved.
2006-12-05 12:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I am a Filipino chick and my parents are prejudice against white people but it is your life and his. If you guys make each other happy and enjoys each others company that is all that matters and if they dont like so what . I was on the same situation and i told my parents they didn't like it but eventually it worked out.
2006-12-05 12:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by lilmommamiamor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them the movie "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner?" starring Spencer Tracy and Katherin Hepburn for Christmas.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061735/
2006-12-05 12:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant pick and choose your family hon. So if his grandparents dont approve of you thats their problem. All people have problems with family members. I say dont tell the grandparents but tell everyone else. Or you man can tell his grandparents and let them know that you guys are in love and might be getting married. They will get over it. Love is color blind.
2006-12-05 12:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love each other that much, GET MARRIED! don't worry about what his grandparents think, -they'll get over it sooner or later! Are they gonna hate him forever? they may not be around in the future! anyways, tell his family! will his family get upset? are they racist too? (-Maybe if they raised him up as a child, that's why it bothers him.)
2006-12-05 12:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to come clean honey...they might not approve of your relationship but that is not their choice to make when it comes to whom their son dates. If you are considering marrige it would be best to break the ice now before the big day down the road. Good luck!!
2006-12-05 12:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awful! Anway, like the saying goes....".If there's a Wheel there's a way." meaning.......You can always find solution to ur problem....It's his family, let him take care of it. His grandparents are the racist, aren't they? Then let him handle the situation. His the man by the way. Is he?Prove himself.
2006-12-05 12:44:52 · answer #11 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋