Two years ago my son, then 13, messesd up, got home drunk, was disrespectful. I ended up giving him a good spanking and he was grounded for 2 months. He turned into a great kid any parent would be proud of,.but so resentful that until today he has hardly talked to me and his mom, cause she supported me. These days I had a problem and because of my principles I had to give up some good money I was about to make and we were counting on. My wife and my 12 yo daughter got disappointed an even angry with me, cause though contrary to my principles there was nothing illegal. Bt my son understood me, even congratulated me and help me convince my wife and daughter I had done the right thing to do. I was amazed, he handled that situation better than me, showed much maturity, and convinced them I was right. I tried that could mean a new and good phase in our realtionship, but unfortunately I was wrong. He just said he had been fair, followed his conscience but nothing had changed.
2006-12-05 04:28:54 · 6 answers · asked by Ed 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Do you think this fact was positive or negative? Will it make our relationship better or worse?
2006-12-05 04:29:17 · update #1
try to listen to him more.
really try to understand what he is saying
and how he feels.
try to be empathetic. that doesn't mean you let him have his way in everything, but understand him.
2006-12-05 04:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that deep down he respects you. Don't force anything. He will eventually forgive you and come to terms with the fact that he was disciplined as a youth for a transgression that was his mistake, or he won't.
It is a good sign, but like he said, doesn't mean things are changed.
Just continue being a good parent, and hope things play out in your favor.
But again, don't try to force the relationship. Even if things do change deep down, he may not admit it for years and years.
Hope this proves helpful!
2006-12-05 04:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave a thirteen year old boy "a good spanking" and wonder why he doesn't like you. Sheesh. I wouldn't talk to you, either if it was me! What would have been wrong with verbal communication and non violent punishment? You crossed a line bub, no going back now and I do not blame him one single bit. You owe him an apology at the very least and then you might have a chance...
2006-12-05 04:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depending who gave it 2him.where was he when he use alcohol was he with some older ppl or some where that other ppl gave it to him are u married 2wice and have a different wife may be what you did was rite but I feel for punishing him for a month was taking it to far I wud of just punish him two weeks and found where he got the alcohol from may be you should talk with him and let him know it is done let him you still love him money is not everything just trying to unsestand what your saying here
2006-12-05 04:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by edward_church2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son will come around his is just going through alot of changes. You will always be his Dad just stick in there and keep supporting him. They all turn around. Good luck
2006-12-05 04:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by afishmaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to spend a weekend away camping or something with you. Tell him your proud of him and want to spend more time with him. Open up to him, he will open up to you too.
2006-12-05 04:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋