Is there anyone have, or had relationship or involved with Narcissist Personality Disorder?

Question

Please tell me in details as much as you can, if you have children with him/her..what it's like?...I have been reading a lots of articles about NPD and other Personalities Disorder, but I think the real story will help me understand it better.*I am also pregnant 18 weeks with NPD(I assumed he is)..He still doesn't care and his words and behavior is absolutely abnormal for a man who is becoming a father. You could give me any advices what should I do.
Thank you so much for your serious answer. :-)

If you want to blame me that I am a stupid girl I don't mind, the reason that I asked you to give me of the real story is because I have never living with this Narcissist guy , I now believed that he lied to me that he got deported 3 yrs from the tax man in UK.Then later on he told me that he was in Open prision for 1 year, I didn't see him 6 months, 9 months, but because I truely love him and I adore love, I was believe in love...we mostly contact each other by e-mails but actually was me that keep sending him 1,000 e-mails because I wanted to show him how much I love him, how much I am committed and serious with our relationship AS His excuse was because he doesn't trust internet dating, which he know me from there*Now he has his profile on match.com looking for girls inspite of he knows that I am pregnant. *I really need to make a dicision that shall I stay where I am or move and never see him ever again.

Answer 1

there are also people who suffer reverse narcissistic personality disorder and all i can say is get psychiatric help my friend

Answer 2

1.Constantly looks to you to meet their needs
2. Expects you to know what he/she expects, desires, and needs without having to ask for it
3. Gets upset when you are perceived to be critical or blaming
4. Expects you to put his/her needs before your own
5. Seeks attention in indirect ways
6. Expects you to openly admire him/her
7. Acts childish, e.g., sulks or pouts
8. Accuses you of being insensitive or uncaring without cause or notice
9. Finds fault with your friends
10. Becomes angry when challenged or confronted
11. Does not seem to recognize your feelings
12. Uses your disclosures to criticize, blame, or discount you
13. Is controlling
14. Lies, distorts, and misleads
15. Is competitive and uses any means to get what is wanted
16. Has a superior attitude
17. Is contemptuous of you and others
18. Is arrogant
19. Is envious of others
20. Demeans and devalues you
21. Is self-centered and self absorbed
22. Has to be the center of attention
23. Manipulates others to win attention
24. Is impulsive and reckless
25. Boasts and brags
26. Is insensitive to your needs
27. Makes fun of others’ mistakes or faults
28. Engages in seductive behavior
29. Is vengeful
30. Expects favors, but does not return them

What more do you need to know, you are living with this day in & day out. I used to be married to a guy like this & trust me Babe, it doesn't get any easier. You have to get the hell out of there. He'll threaten suicide, he won't do it, it's just to keep you from leaving him. I very nearly died at the hands of my ex. I have 3 children by him. one of whom shows definite traits of the same disorder.
You need to be careful here, go & get help perhaps at a refuge or something. they can offer you advice on the best way of getting out of this situation. I'll tell you this for nothing, he won't change, he can't. Don't use that as an excuse for his behaviour though. His mental problems are not your fault. There is nothing you can do to improve the situation. You really need to put yourself & your Baby first right now.
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

sorry to hear having a rough time but you prob know deep down what action to take...if he's a danger then an exclusion or restriction order may be warranted unless a drastic change occurs start planning life without his help and maybe move address you'll be suprised how many friends will rally round.good luck

Answer 4

This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/

Answer 5

Here are some facts for you, and for God's sake get away from him, it will only get worse.
NARCISSISM
contradict themselves - They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy
cruelty - to other people - the surest way I know of to get a crushing blow to your heart is to tell a narcissist you love her or him. They will respond with a nasty power move
lack a mature conscience - restrained only by fear of being punished or of damaging their reputations
envious and competitive - Narcissists feel that, unless they are better than anyone else, they are worse than everybody in the whole world
contemptuous - a dismissive attitude towards other people's feelings, wishes, needs, concerns, standards, property, work, etc.
extremely sensitive to personal criticism & or extremely critical of other people
They think that they must be seen as perfect or superior or infallible, There's no middle ground of ordinary normal humanity for narcissists. They can't tolerate the least disagreement. In fact, if you say, "Please don't do that again -- it hurts," narcissists will turn around and do it again harder to prove that they were right the first time; their reasoning seems to be something like "I am a good person and can do no wrong; therefore, I didn't hurt you and you are lying about it. narcissists will say ANYTHING, they will trash anyone in their own self-justification, and then they will expect the immediate restoration of the status quo. They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc.They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you. They can't see that they have a problem; it's always somebody else who has the problem and needs to change.
they criticize, gripe, and complain about almost everything and almost everyone almost all the time. - they don't know the difference between fear and love. Narcissists just get worse and worse as they grow older
feel entitled - Narcissists feel entitled to whatever they can take. They expect privileges and indulgences, and they also feel entitled to exploit other people without any trace of reciprocation. stingy, mean, frugal, niggardly to the point of eccentricity. Narcissists are not only selfish and ungiving -- they seem to have to make a point of not giving what they know someone else wants. Thus, for instance, in a "romantic" relationship, they will want you to do what they want because they want it and not because you want it -- and, in fact, if you actually want to do what they want, then that's too much like sharing and you wreck their fun and they don't want it anymore. They want to get what they want from you without giving you what you want from them. Period. If you should happen to want to give what they want to get, then they'll lose interest in you.
very disappointing as gift-givers - ("Go ahead -- tell me what you really want"), make a show of paying attention to the answer ("Don't you think I'm nice?"), and then deliver something other than what was asked for -- and feel abused and unappreciated when someone else gets gratitude for fulfilling the very request that the narcissist evoked in the first place. narcissists will go out of their way to stir up other people's expectations and then go out of their way to disappoint those expectations. narcissists lack empathy, so they don't know what you want or like and, evidently, they don't care either; they think their opinions are better and more important than anyone else's, so they'll give you what they think you ought to want.
It's very hard to have a simple, uncomplicated good time with a narcissist - Except for odd spells of heady euphoria unrelated to anything you can see, their affective range is mediocre-fake-normal to hell-on-Earth. They will sometimes lie low and be quiet, actually passive and dependent -- this is as good as it gets with narcissists. They are incapable of loving conduct towards anyone or anything, so they do not have the capacity for simple pleasure, beyond the satisfaction of bodily needs. There is only one way to please a narcissist (and it won't please you): that is to indulge their every whim, cater to their tiniest impulses, bend to their views on every little thing. They can be pretty nice, even charming, flirtatious, and seductive, to strangers, and will flatter you shamelessly if they want something from you. These people are geniuses of "Come closer so I can slap you." They will not have considered for one second how much of your time it will take, how much trouble it may get you into in their behalf, that they will owe you BIG for this -- no, you're just going to do it all out of the goodness of your heart, which they are delighted to exploit yet again, and your virtue will be its own reward: it's supposed to just tickle you pink to be offered this generous opportunity of showing how much you love them and/or how lucky you are to be the servant of such a luminous personage.
Appearances are all there is with narcissists - if they really loved him, they'd have bought his artificial "country squire" persona: they would have seen him as he wished to be seen: they would have believed his lies without question or doubt.
secretive or perhaps unusually reserved or very jealous of their privacy - They feel that their jobs, their friends and families, their homes and possessions aren't good enough for them, they deserve better.
negative, pessimistic, cynical, Sarcasm - Sarcasm seems to be a narcissistic specialty, not to mention spite. Lacking love and pleasure, they don't have a good reason for anything they do and they think everyone else is just like them, except they're honest and the rest of us are hypocrites. Nothing real is ever perfect enough to satisfy them, so are they are constantly complaining and criticizing -- to the point of verbal abuse and insult.
impulsive - They undo themselves by behavior that seems oddly stupid for people as intelligent as they are. Somehow, they don't consider the probable consequences of their actions. It's not clear to me whether they just expect to get away with doing anything they feel like at the moment or whether this impulsiveness is essentially a cognitive shortcoming deriving from the static psychic state with its distorted perception of time.
hate to live alone - Their inner resources are skimpy, static, and sterile, nothing interesting or attractive going on in their hearts and minds, so they don't want to be stuck with themselves. All they have inside is the image of perfection that, being mere mortals like the rest of us, they will inevitably fall short of attaining.