We dated 2 years, my parents never knew about him because my mom would kill me if she knew I was with a white guy. I am East Indian. We talked all the time about getting married, he re assured me a million times he is serious about me, and knows I have to go thru a lot to be with him.
I told my bf I was going to tell my Dad first, and he fully supported me. He said the sooner the better. So I tell my dad, and 2 weeks later, he breaks up with me. During thise 2 weeks, he met some girl at work, his new assistant.
Next day he was very distant, and I found out he went out with this girl. Day after he breaks up with me w/ no explanation. He has never treated me w/ that much disrespect till then. He wacthed tv while I sat there and cried. I called him one night a few times and the day after he changed his cell phone number! When I saw him he was insulting, and teling me I was pushy, hes never said that before. Why change al of a suden? Now hes with this new girl. Its been 2 mos no cont
2006-12-05 04:20:32 · 8 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and 2 days before we broke up, he was fine. He told me "You are my lifeline thru life, and I cant do this without you." He literally tells me Im the best and the day after Im not.
2006-12-05 04:22:02 · update #1
He left me for another girl once before.......and came back to me after 1 week........stupid thing is........I still love him and want him back, and I dont know why.....my family would go crazy if I married him....
2006-12-05 04:38:42 · update #2
I dated a guy for 4 years. I acted like everything was fine the entire time although it wasn't. I never said anything because I knew how he felt and I was afraid I would hurt him. He would make it difficult to break up with him.
I also was afraid to break up with him because after dating him for so long I wasn't sure how if other people would want to date me, how to go on dates, etc. I was out of the loop when it came to dating, which made things even more difficult. Right before I broke up with him I met someone that I really liked and it showed me that there was life after this and I was able to meet other guys.
One day out of no where shortly aftre this I just couldn't take it anymore and I just broke up with him.
Maybe he was in the same situation.
2006-12-05 04:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I unfotunately broke up with my ex the same way but I was very young and immature at that time. We were together for years and I had been not so into him for a while but told him everything he wanted to hear. Never understood why because I am very honest about these things... I broke up on his birthday too and was a cold bit*ch to him. Theres really no explaination but that he was looking for a way out but was too scared to tell you. You just have to be strong and tell yourself that you deserve a real man who can own up to his actions and feelings.
Its nothing against you and don't be too hard on yourself it just wasnt meant to be. Don't try to find an explanation because there just isnt any... these things just happen sometimes
2006-12-05 12:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Curious George 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately what people say means nothing. Sounds to me like he probably felt less of a commitment to you when you had not told your parents about him. Then you tell them and things become way more serious. Now that the parents know there is nothing stopping you guys from getting married. Maybe it all got too close to serious so he ran. I think your not telling your parents about him was his security blanket of not having to move forward and now that its gone so is he.
2006-12-05 12:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I'll tell you what confused,
Its a damn good thing it happend now..before you married this S.O.B. What if you had married him, then cheated on you!? Now you will never be able to trust him ever again.
And I can tell you exactly what will happen with him and his "new" girlfriend....IT WONT LAST., then he'll be on his hands and knee's crying for you to take him back!
You'll see...give it some time... But do not take him back.. Forget about him and move on with your life. Find someone who really loves you and who is not a cheat!
Good luck!
2006-12-05 12:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by multipure417278 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard, maybe he felt angry that you kept him a secret for so long. When he met this new girl, they didn't have to sneak around.
It is no excuse for him being a jerk, give him his space. If you are meant to be, he will come back. I advise you to think twice about taking him back. That was very disrespectful of him to treat you so wrong. You can find better, I know it hurts, it will heel.
2006-12-05 12:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he'd been a jerk throughout your relationship.He knew you loved her that you'll do everything to keep her.he made a fool out of you i would say.I couldn't figure out of anything...all the while he may just want to prove to himself that nobody can afford to lose him...find another guy....just make its not a jerk this time.
2006-12-05 12:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you give it up before dinner? and just be happy you didnt get married. tell him to stop callin you and start calling the "assistant"
2006-12-05 12:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you realize he's a jerk....some of us are still searching for answers
2006-12-05 12:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋