my friends mom just maid her leave all her friends and go to home schooling just because she was failing gym. how do i help convince her that her mom maid the wrong choice and that eventualluy her parents will let her come back to school with me. ( her parents already told me she was comeing back next semester) I just want her to enjoy her freedom with out worrying about us and pass her classes so she can come back. HELP ME PLEASE!
2006-12-05 04:04:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
You need to sweep around your own front door first. What's up with the spelling? If you and your friend are taking the same classes then perhaps her parents are correct. She's failing gym and you have a slight problem with spelling simple words.
Focus on your studies and let your friend do the same.
2006-12-05 04:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think your main focus should be being her friend. If she is going through a rough time right now (and it sounds like she is), she needs support now more than any "help" you might try to give her.
How do you support her? Listen to her. Don't judge, or try to fix things, or tell her that her parents are wrong, or decide you know the answer to her problems. Just listen. Show her you are listening by giving her feedback that you heard her. ("Sounds like this is really tough for you." or "Your really frustrated with your parents right now." for example.) And let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to vent. And that you will always be there, no matter how long she's away from school.
If you are a true friend, whether or not she's in school won't effect your friendship. If you are a true friend, then you'll find a way to be with her outside of school. If you are a true friend, you'll think less about the pain your suffering because she's gone and think more about what she needs to help her get through this rough time.
Sometimes, what one person sees as freedom another person sees as shackles. Try to see things from her perspective. And if you can't, just enjoy being around her, and talking to her, when you can.
That's what a true friend is.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 08:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by TammyT 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-05 04:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Did you know that kids who are properly home schooled are actually better off than those in public school? Your friend may actually be getting a better education than you are! Have you thought about joining her?
Maybe her 'freedom' is not good for her. Apparently she does not appreciate it enough to buckle down and do what she is suppose to in school. I think her parents did the right thing.
It's not up to you to try to convince her parents to let her go back to public school. I don't know how old you guys are....but seems to me you are too immature for so much freedom.
2006-12-05 04:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, as a parent, I think it's a really bad idea for you to be convincing somebody that their parents are wrong.
Secondly, it's not your job to make her life better. You seem to feel personally responsible for how she feels. If you want her to enjoy her freedom and all that, tell her just what you said then leave it in her hands. She's as big of a girl as you and can choose how to look at how everything is happening.
2006-12-05 05:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by glurpy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First get all the facts.
Then express your feelings to her mom.
Next, ask her for what you want.
If this doesn't work repeat the facts.
Example:
FACTS: Friend is failing gym. (add anything else you might find out about) It's really important to find out EVERY reason her mom pulled her out.
EXPRESS your feelings: It makes me sad, angry (whatever you are feeling) you pulled your daughter (friend) out of school because of (state all the facts).
Ask: If (friend) does this that or the other thing, then will she(friend) be able to come back to regular school.
FACTS: are things that another person cannot dispute.
2006-12-05 04:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by carol f 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is hard to believe that it was just for failing gym class. Sometimes when we are on the outside looking in we can't see what is really going on. I am worried more about you. I notice that you spelled made "maid." FOCUS more on you than your friend
2006-12-05 04:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Aw, homeschooling isn't so bad. I was homeschooled from preschool through highschool, and I managed to survive mostly intact.
I'm sure you can make it through one semester without her company in school. After all, it's only one semester, and her mom already promised that she could come back next semester.
Just make an effort to hang out with her so she doesn't feel abandoned by her friends, and help her get good grades so she can prove to her mom that she's responsible.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-05 04:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I believe you are wrong... and you as a child shouldn't think that you are wiser about things than you friend's mother. Home schooling is a VERY WISE choice... especially with all the corruption in public school systems... and the type of "socialization" that children receive in public schools is not one I'd prefer MY children experience!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Grow up and just ask the mother when you can see her because you want to maintain your friendship with her daughter.... you don't approach a mother, being a child, the way you are trying to... you will just offend her...
2006-12-05 21:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, i would imagine there is more to it then just failing gym,,, something you dont know, that she or her parents dont wish to discuss, and thats their right,,,,, if her parents have already said she is coming back next semester, then you just need to wait till then,,,,,, that is another clue that there is more to it then just gym,,,,,,parents dont normally take their child out to home school for part of a semester, then send them back,,,,
2006-12-05 04:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by dlin333 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋