i have just found out i am pregnant. my boyfriend isnt very happy, but supportive and has just about come round to the idea of having another baby. we have been togther 5 years.
the onl problem is the baby iant my boyfriends, but my ex's. i had a fallen out with my boyfriend and even know no exscuse, i ended up with my ex. obviously my bf doesnt know, and i have decided to let him believe it is his. i just cant seem to stop thinking about it, and how this baby will look. i pray its a girl! i know what i ahve done is bad and unforgivable, but should i tell my boyfriend? he would diffinitly leave me, no question about it.
please no nasty comments, im well aware of how bad i am and that its my fault, i just need some1 elses opnion,
2006-12-05 04:02:47 · 16 answers · asked by lucy h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You already know what you need to do, but yet you need others to tell you want to do. You have to tell him the truth, and let him decide if he will stay or go. It is not fair to him or the father of the baby to not know who the father is.
2006-12-05 04:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this a familiar story. My sister did the same thing, exept neither were her boyfriend. She told one he was the father (bob)and his family was so excited. The other guy (mark) knew of his chances but he was married so he agreed to blame it on Bob. Bob was in town for the delivery and cut the cord and signed the birth certificate. Well my sister got angry with bob's family for some reason so decided to test Mark. Turns out my nephew belongs to Mark. She is now married to Jerry but is having to go to court to try to terminate bob's parental rights. Bob is also fighting for custody, and since he signed the Acknowledment of Paternity he has every right. If she wins that case she will then have to take Mark for custody so her husband can adopt my nephew. Through all this my 3 yr old nephew must leave of 200 miles away every other weekend with peolpe he hardly knows.
Confused?! I bet. You must come clean now. Also, what I would warn my sister of is what if, God forbid, something be wrong with the child at birth and he need blood or something and your boyfriend can't help because he doesn't match. You really wouldn't want him to find out like that. my email is ehuerta22@yahoo.com Please feel free to contact me if you have any other questions. Good Luck!!
2006-12-05 05:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by ehuerta22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worse than denying a child to know their proper father. You will have to fess up sooner or later. What if the child or father has a horrible accident or medical problem....the other may be their only chance at survival.
You need to tell everyone involved. Do you want to put yourself through many years of stress of whether the baby will look like him or just slipping up & telling him if you have a fight.
2006-12-05 05:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by jillette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. Immediately. One of the worst things you could do is let him live his life thinking that baby is his. If he ever found out the truth, it would be devastating to not only him, but the child.
You're not a bad person since you're obviously bothered by the fact that you haven't told him. And I think you know you should tell him. You don't want to have to live with that for the rest of your life. That's a really major secret to have to carry around.
2006-12-05 04:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait to see if it is a girl and if it is then do not tell him. It's bad enough the baby will have you as a mother so at least let a real man take care of here. If it is a boy, you mine as well tell him. Get the ultrasound as soon as possible so you can do what needs to be done.
The other option is to give it up for adoption to one of the thousands of deserving couples out there.
2006-12-05 04:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ANOTHER baby? Oh my. I had a child out of wedlock too. I didn't want anymore as financially it's very difficult, plus it's not really fair to my son to have a single mother so I QUIT HAVING SEX and have not become pregnant yet! Think if it were the men who got pregnant and 10 years down the road you found out the child you had raised and loved wasn't biologically yours. Of course you have to tell him.
2006-12-05 04:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by bradys_mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your boyfriend and plan on being with him I wouldn't tell him, if you think you and your ex might get back together or you don't see yourself being with your boyfriend then I would break things off now before you end up hurting him worse or putting yourself in a nasty situation. Wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-05 04:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him of course. Only fair to him and the baby. You slept around, you have to pay the consequences.
2006-12-05 04:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know despite the turn out. Put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to be lied to or tricked?
2006-12-05 04:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by healthykidnow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats fu cked up! you ex is going to want to no his baby thats just mean to keep his away from him! you an your boyfriend are bound to break up any way! soo you need to tell your boyfriend and your ex! its not like you are married.
2006-12-05 04:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by brandy baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋