I wanna know why do we stay longer with our friends than on someone that we have given more than friendship?

Question

like why do u treated them differently...when u can actually do the same thing on your partner in relationship....be a friend to him/her
but why are we so bothered about getting hurt and being left someday?is love for you only based on what you that extreme beat of you heart of something beyond you can say?

Answer 1

Because friends aren't as intimate a connection as a lover. Your friend can hurt you, and you may be mad at them, but when a lover hurts you it goes so much deeper. This person has been literally inside of your body. They have seen you at your absolute best and worst. Even if you tell your friend everything, it's still not the same as when you share it with your lover. You should be friends with your partner, it will help to keep you together for a lifetime, but it has to also go beyond friendship. You have to have a lot of trust and respect and humility too. If a friend gets on your nerves you have the option to not return a call or hang out with a different friend and it doesn't hurt your friendship. If your spouse gets on your nerves you have to learn how to deal with while that person is with you always. You can't just teak a break from your partner and be with someone else without hurting them. It's too complicated to try to put it all into words. It's just that way.

Answer 2

I believe that many tend to exhibit jealousy and expectations toward a partner than they do their friends.

If you ask a friend to the movies and one says no, you can ask another friend and not take it personally. If you ask a partner to an event and your heart and expectations are set on it and he declines, you may choose to feel slighted and upset. You may blame your partner for letting you down when in reality your expectations let you down.

Putting expectations on a relationship causes trouble and remove freedom. People feel trapped and controlled and respond with ultamatums and projections of guilt. This also leads to fear of being trapped and surprisingly, the fear of being abandoned.

When one chooses to end a relationship, no one is abandoned. Someone just chose something different. Abandonment is not a feeling,it is a judgment. A person can feel sad and then attach the judgment of abandonment to it and feel even worse. Or one can feel sad and choose to do and feel something else rather than stay in sadness, unless he enjoys self-pity and sadness.

One reason people tend to jump from relationship to relationship is that they are looking for another person to satisfy and fulfill them and meet all their needs. No one person can or should be another's everything. If each peson is complete and whole, meeting his or her own needs, then they are ready for a healthy relationship. Neediness pushes away love and people cling to each other out of their need rather than in their love.

Love has no fear, no jealousy, no neediness and no expectation.

Answer 3

With friends, we go home at night, and its easier to get our space when we need to. Relationships require more of a personal sacrifice when it comes to freedom to choose what we want to do, when we want to do it. After awhile, the lure of having that freedom back can cause the relationship to end on not so nice of terms. Since both parties realize that they may want to get into another relationship down the road, they usually find it best to avoid each other after wards, so as not to cause any unnecessary pain and inconvenience for both they and their former partner.

Answer 4

Love is being in love with your bestfriend. you get the best of both worlds. but it takes 2 people to make a realtionship. you both have to want the same thing. friends or lovers? or even both, cuz it is possible. you just have to find someone who sees what you see and wants what you want

Answer 5

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