my bf and i broke up awhile ago, and now im with a new guy. my new bf truly cares about me and he treats me so much better than my x. the problem im having though is that my x still goes to school with me, so i see him everyday, but i see my bf once a week, twice if im lucky since my mom doesnt let me go out alot. my bf and my x have met each other and talked about me and now my x knows that ive moved on, and he seems pretty cool with the idea. but i still miss my x and whenever he hugs other girls i get a pinch of jealousy inside of me. are my feelings for my x more than they should be? and if they are, what can i do to make them go away, because i know i have a great thing going with my bf but i just don't know how to forget my x.
2006-12-05 03:39:55 · 5 answers · asked by sweethyedreamer213 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I don't think you are wrong in feeling a little tingle when you see your ex with another girl. You just are remembering those moments you were together. So, the first step is accepting the fact that it's okay to feel the way you feel.
As long as you don't act on your instincts and immediate reactions and entertain thoughts of going back to your ex, these thoughts shouldn't harm you.
The next time you see your ex holding or kissing another girl, it might help for you think about how it is between you and your boyfriend. That way you can distract your thoughts to something you can pleasantly relate to. It might also help strengthen your bond with your present bf.
Just don't keep hurting yourself for not having completely dumped your thoughts and memories of your ex boyfriend. It won't go away easily and that's quite okay. There were very good reasons why you moved on. Maybe bring those thoughts into perspective. You'll then convince yourself you've done the right thing moving on.
2006-12-05 03:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of the past...especially if your ex no longer is interested in you that way... Why are you wasting your time and feelings on someone that doesn't care about you that way... He doesn't love you...why should you?
You need to focus that attention and feelings towards your bf; he loves you. Doesn't he deserve your love too?
Good luck!!!
2006-12-05 11:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u can never forget a x completely. he will always be in ur mind especially if u see him every day. the best thing to do is to avoid him and focus more on what u have right now.
2006-12-05 11:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time time and more time. It will take time for the jealousy to dissipate. Just know you are with the right one
2006-12-05 11:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can call your bf and talk or went you see your ex just look away just don't think of him
2006-12-05 11:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋