I started dating a guy. We had just started when we hit a rough patch. I thought it was over. I never asked he never said. So I started seeing another guy. Then out of the blue the first guy says he really liked me and wants us to work on a relationship. I really like both of the guys. I might even like the first one just a little bit more mainly because I was seeing him first. What I need an opinion on is do you think it is ok to date both of them for a little while until i decide which one I would preferr to be with more. They both have their good and bad points. I'm not sleeping with either on and I don't intend to while I am seeing them both. I don't beleive in that. Honest answers please. I'm not looking for smart comment's. This is the first time I have ever done anything like this. I don't mean to hurt either one even though I know one will eventually get hurt.
2006-12-05 03:35:56 · 15 answers · asked by happy_cute_mom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its OK to date both of them at the same time as long as you are honest with them. Don't try to hide it or volunteer the information... Just take it casual, date them as friends with potential more...and your heart will tell you which to choose...
Good luck!!!!
2006-12-05 03:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a bad idea, and I understand why you would want to do it. You're not really sure what you are feeling. It could be lust or something more. I would take it as ur not quite over the first guy, and you want to see if it could go somewhere more. He might have been doing the same thing you are currently doing? It might not have worked with the other girl and now he is going back to you? Would you feel okay if that were the case? Or just maybe think why it didn't work to start and what values made you like and meet this 2nd guy? In the end someone is going to get hurt, if ur okay with that and maybe ending up with no one, then i would see each of them until you find out which one really meets ur needs. good luck
2006-12-05 12:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Raymond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead date both, but be up front up with both. Also, I started dating a guy I really liked we kept casual for a few months both going on other dates. Well, one month he quit calling so I also did not bother to call. A month later he called me back and said he had some stuff to figure out and that he was sorry and how much he cared for me and that he wanted to be with just me. I fell for it, but it has been a wonderful 3 years and I would not take a minute of it back. Not even seeing other people at the begining, because we actually dated which most people skip over, we started our relationship off right and it worked.
2006-12-05 11:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Testing the waters and being involved with two people at the same time is a lot of work. You can hurt someone in the process by playing with their emotions, and yours.
If you want to clear your mind, then be by yourlself for a while. You can see then both "as friends" and decide which company you enjoy the most,
I strongly suggest for you not to give false hope to people that you don't want to be involved with, that is cruel and is selfish. Just kissing, holding hands and having an emotional connection can hurt deeply if you are really not interested in them.
Good luck
2006-12-05 11:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have a nice long talk with both of them , but of course at seperate times. You'll be totally even-keeled and should be able to say anything you've been holding back, feelings, emotions, and all that good stuff. The response you get should be almost perfect and should be the one you would need to know to make a dession between the two.
2006-12-05 11:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right, one might eventually be hurt. i think the best thing to do is explain to guy #2 that you want to try and work things out with guy #1. It would be best not to drag this on- the longer the wait, the more hurt one of the guys will be(most likely). Good luck and i hope you take me seriously. NO MAN likes to be juggled around.
2006-12-05 11:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, dumped them both.
If you can't decide between two, chances are neither of them are right for you. If you break up with them and later (once you've gotten yourself straightened out again) you're able to start over with one of them, you have a better chance starting with a clean slate.
2006-12-05 11:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are open and they both know that you are seeing other people you should only date one of them. Its not right to let them believe they are the only one your dating while you decide which one you want to be with.
2006-12-05 11:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to date them both till you figure out what you want. You do have to let them know about each other and see where they stand with it. If they are ok then fine, if not then thats something you need to handle. Good Luck
2006-12-05 11:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let them both know you're dating other people, and get to know them better. It shouldn't take long to find out which one you like more. (It's perfectly fair to date multiple people if you're open and honest about it. The only thing you owe anyone is honesty.)
2006-12-05 11:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Father G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋