ok my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 years now. in the beginning he always wanted to be with me and he would give me lots of attention and little things like that.
lately i always have to ask him to hang out and always ask him whats wrong with you, you wont even caress me or anything.
he just recently got some new friends and it seems like he always wants to hang out with them over me. what is going on here? i know he isnt cheating on me but i dunno what his deal is.
it seems as if in the beginning i always wanted to be with my friends and now the tables have turned and i dont like it. any ideas.....
2006-12-05 03:29:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
communication is the key... tell him what you think and try to have a resolution... you can't keep him away from friends but you can have a couple of days that's just you and him.
2006-12-05 03:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by yelenia0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend maybe having some family issues or there is something he wants to say but is not sure how to say it, Well the statement I know he is not cheating, does not exacatly fit why you can't get your boyfriends attention, he could be cheating on you and you would never know it. Although he may really have a set of friend he is always hanging out with. You will know something is wrong with him if he can look at you when you and him have a conversation in person. it does not seem like to me he cares enough about you to tell you what is going on. Next time you do talk to him get him to come see you so you and him can sit and talk and get him to tell you what has been bothering him and ask him have you done anything that would cause him to feel the way he does if says no then tell that you just want to know what is going on and you won't get upset with him if he tells you what he wants. Let him know you care a lot about and are concerned about him and what is going on. If he is any kind of guy he will let you know what is going on if not then you know what you have to do, but do because you have no other options.
2006-12-05 11:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this sounds like the beginning of the end. By his actions, it seems like he's losing interest in you...can you think of any reason why? Have you been acting any differently?
Sit down and have a serious talk if you want to work things out. If things aren't the way you want them to be, then you have to let him know and you both have to make the choice to stay in the relationship the way it is or work on changing things back to when you were happy.
If he is being distant and not just taking a cue from you and hanging out with his friends, there's a reason. Maybe he is just trying to be with his friends as much as you're with yours, so you can't fault him for that if you've done the exact same thing!
2006-12-05 11:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too available to him. He is going to hang out with his friends because he knows he can probably call you any time if he wants to see you. Give him space and start doing things that dont include him. He will either continue to hang out with his friends and ignore you or he will miss you. Then the ball is in your court to do what you want.
Games suck! Good luck!
2006-12-05 11:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by PeAcHeS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got another and doesn't know how to tell you. You can bet your bottom dollar on that. Being with his other friends is just a front to avoid the reality of the case. I think the relationship has gone south for the winter never to return. Ask him about it.
2006-12-05 11:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out ask him if he wants to break up. Two wrongs don't make a right. So if he is turning the tables let him have it. If he wants you then things will change.
2006-12-05 11:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like when my ex and I started dating...and then our conversations just started becoming a complaint session for her to moan about how life was not perfect.
The BEST way to lose a man is to nag and complain incessently. He may also be a jerk, I don't know.
A professor once told me;"if you want to see a change in others...start with yourself."
2006-12-05 11:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a total jerk! Forget the 3 years, and move on! You can find someone better than that and someone that will treat you a million times better.
2006-12-05 11:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask him to hang out, you need to move on and lose the kid. He has better things to do he thinks and he is wasting your time. You have better things to do then wait for this kid. Good luck
2006-12-05 11:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by Quinton S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him straight up . =]
like if he still wanna be in a relationship wif yu .
the best thing is to find out what hes thinking
2006-12-05 11:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by fohreels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋