My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 years ago. He has got married since, has a child, and got in touch with me recently. He wants to be friends with me, but I am unsure whether it is a good idea. Though I like him, I feel it will create unnecessary tensions. Advice please?
2006-12-05 03:27:29 · 29 answers · asked by ER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem could arise from the fact that he is married. His wife might not take your renewed friendship with her husband too kindly. Women are known to be pretty touchy in such matters. Other than that, he might just start to rediscover the feelings he had for you 3 years back. That could cause real complications in the lives of both of you, with none too pleasant consequences. Although all these are just possibilities, it is better to pre-empt those rather than waiting for any misfortune to befall. A lot of otherwise responsible people have committed such blunders in their lives. So?? Best avoided. What's over is over.
2006-12-05 03:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that this will create unnecessary tension, you are probably right. It may be that you suspect there are still romantic feelings involved on one end or the other, in which case, it is probably a good idea that you stay away.
2006-12-05 03:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that until you are both 100% ready, it is NOT possible to remain friends. I am friends with the majority of my ex-boyfriends now, but there are one or two of them that I don't think I'll ever trust again or feel comfortable enough with to consider as friends.
And if you still have feelings for him, it's definitely not a good idea, especially considering the wife and child.
2006-12-05 03:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is long enough for me, but everyone is different. My most recent ex left me becuase her ex of 2 years and her decided they could be firends after only 5 months. So i had been dating her for 4 months, and she decided that since they were only firneds they could sleep in the same bed together and not have to worry about anything. So needless to say, it wasn't long wnought, and i am single now.
2006-12-05 03:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jon C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since u've been his girlfriend and you broke up then you can just be his friends thats all or else ur gonna break up again ..( I assum )..The 2nd thing is don't because you were his GF so if you become near to him again he might love you as he did before and that may cause trouble to his wife,child and to you as well...( Hope I helped )
2006-12-05 03:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..it's not possible to friends with him honey..if you try you will just cause yourself a lot of unnecessary pain...once you love someone it never goes away...you can't just turn it off like a switch..we are only friends now...I tried and let me tell you it won't work...good luck
2006-12-05 15:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first boyfriend when i was 13 to 17 and the boy i thought i would be with forever......left moved to another state when i was 17 now 25 years later he found me on the computer and looked me up Myself a widow with three kids and he is married with one child but we are friends now we got to see each other after 25 years and i am glad we can have a friendship he told his wife about me she has no problems with it and that makes me happy i have no feelings for him as anything else..........makes us all happy
2006-12-05 03:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_castle2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think it will create unnecessary tensions keep a distant relation, like with a cousin or so...but you should yhink that he changed and try to make somethink work out...it's up to you.
cpt. spranceana
2006-12-05 03:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no! IF there are any resurfaced feelings then you may cause more harm than you want! Think of it this way...when you marry do you want your husband to call his ex-girlfriend?
2006-12-05 03:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by fredyouthguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first you think it will be able to work, but it turns out it doesnt. i just went through it. its hard to establish the new relationship and you have to put up barriers so that you dont get hurt. old feelings come up. my advice is dont do it. you will only get hurt again. its not worth it.
2006-12-05 03:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by bombshell brunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋