My husband's brother is getting married on December 15th. Their wedding was supposed to be semi-formal. They aren't having a dance or a dinner, just a luncheon with family and then an open house style reception. But the groom decided he wanted the dads and brothers to wear tuxes. But the bride doesn't care what the moms and sisters wear, mostly because of a limit of money. She does have two bridesmaids who will be wearing formal dresses in her colors, a friend and one of her sisters. On the groom's side there are 4 sisters, two of which have husbands who will be wearing tuxes. So my question is should the moms and sisters wear formal dresses or just semi-formal dresses or skirt/shirt outfits that are the best they have? I asked the bride and she doesn't even care about anything, "as long as she gets married." So pretty much her mom and one of the groom's sisters is planning the whole thing. Is there special etiquette for this?
2006-12-05 03:24:58 · 20 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i would wear a dressy dress,,,, or else a nice blouse and skirt,,,,, its the brides day,, and if she doesnt care, there isnt a reason to go out and make a special purchase,,,, any thing dressy, silky etc without being too flashy, should be good,,,,,
2006-12-05 03:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
As it stands now...it is all out of whack! This does not sound like a formal wedding and therefore there should be no tux. If the groom insists then the women must follow suit otherwise they are out of sinc here. Keep it all semi formal...suits, tie and dresses. An open house luncheon is a very nice informal and friendly enjoyable touch for the guests but does not call for for high formality...that's for a big cathedral big shot deal. Don't make it what it isn't. Keep it simple and it will be lovely.
2006-12-05 11:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, the wedding is about whatever the bride and groom want. If someone else contributes to the cost of the wedding, they get a say in things, but the final decision always rests with the couple.
If the bride doesn't care what the other women wear, and the groom has no problem with it, then everyone should just dress as nice as they feel comfortable with.
2006-12-05 13:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding party and the guests are different things. The wedding party (ie bridesmaids and groomsmen) are almost always dressed formally or semi-formally.
You can't really dictate what the guests, parents, and siblings are wearing, short of saying in the invite "semi-formal" or "formal". If the invites say semi-formal, then men should wear a jacket and tie, women should wear dresses (tea-length is okay). If the invites say "formal" then men really should wear dress suits or tuxes, and women should wear gowns. Either of these is very unusual these days.
2006-12-05 13:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by ez_cheez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridesmaids are supposed to be in as formal wear as the bride because they're in "The Wedding Party" -- same goes with groomsmen and the parents of the bride and groom.
You, as a guest, don't have to wear an extremely formal outfit. A nice demure dress or suit (NOT a cocktail dress) would be perfect for the event. What you would wear to a semi-formal suit-and-tie company Christmas party is appropriate. (If you go to church regularly, think "Sunday best", and you'll do perfectly.)
2006-12-05 11:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jess B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bride and Groom need to get on the same page. If the men will be wearing tuxes, the women will need to step it up with formal attire. Then can leave the idea of semi-affordability in with not requiring anyone to match - other than maybe base color. But the guys need to step it down to suit and tie for the girls to look appropriate in semi-formal dresses.
The groom - like most men, probably does not see/understand the difference.
2006-12-05 11:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by rogueknight17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the men are in tuxes then I think that semi-formal or formal attire would be best for the women to wear. It will look really out of place for the men to be so dressed up and for the women to not be.
2006-12-05 11:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it's an afternoon lunch then you aren't required to wear a gown unless you feel like you want to go thta formal. A nice suit or dress would be appropriate. I wouldn't wear the skirt and shirt because although it is a lunch it is still a wedding. I hope that helps
2006-12-05 11:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by vmblank 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about etiquette... But I do think that the sisters and moms should be dressed at least semi formally... I mean if the men are in tuxedos, I think skirts and shirts will look out of place... I nice cocktail dress would be good...
2006-12-05 11:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should dress to match whatever your escort (your husband) is wearing. If he is formal in a tux, then you should be wearing a formal dress/gown. Theoretically. Now, since the main point should be that you are attending and YOU (a guest) seem to be the only one freaked out by who is wearing what, why don't you just worry about what YOU want to wear and wear what you want? If you want to dress up, then dress up!!!
I agree with the person who said that if they bride doesn't care...
I just wish I could understand why you seem so focused on what everyone else is wearing.
2006-12-05 11:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You dress up for your birthday, right? Well, a wedding is a celebration of life, and you should dress as nice as your budget allows you.
It's not the clothes, it's the care you show you took picking your outfit. You don't need an expensive gown, a nice skirt and blouse will do. A nice hairdo, make-up, and sensible heels, and you're done.
2006-12-05 11:29:02 · answer #11 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋