Mormon beliefs?

Question

I was wondering what the mormon beliefs are concerning relationships before marriage. The guy is mormon and the girl is catholic if that matters.

What is the view on pre-maritial sex?
View on kissing?
View on oral sex?
View on using hands?
View on "feeling" each other?

Any info would be greatly appreciated. thanks

Answer 1

I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter day saints (mormon) and I think this will help you clear up your confusion.

Like most Christians we believe that sex is reserved for marriage. No pre-marital sex.

The view on kissing from "For the Strength of Youth" pamphlet is that we should avoid "heavy kissing" before marriage, this is because it ignites sexual desires.

Oral sex is also something to refrain from before marriage, because it involves sexual stimulation with someone who isn't your wife or husband. "For the strength of youth" stresses wholesome activities when dating and avoiding stimulating sexual desires of another person with whom you are not married.
That includes, using of hands and feeling each other.

In "mormon" or Latter day saint belief, Marriage is instituted by God, and Sex is one of the most powerful ways a man or woman can express his or her love to their spouse. Sexual desire and sex when kept within the bonds of marriage is kept Special and sacred because it become exclusive to the couple. In my opinion and I believe it keeps with the church's teachings when people engage in pre-marital sex or stimulation of sexual desires it cheapens the meaning of sexual relations.

Answer 2

What is the view on pre-maritial sex?
The "view" is it is a commandment to only be sexually active with the person to whom you are legallay and lawfully wed. Some of us make mistakes and slip up, but we can repent. Although, committing sin "knowingly" isn't good either...like saying "well I will just repent later" that's not good.

View on kissing?
There is no "law" of kissing...just being cautious because heavy or lengthy making-out can lead to other things...so kissing is OK, we are just supposed to be careful and not let it get too far - laying down while kissing is frowned upon because that will obviously lead to more things...

View on oral sex?
View on using hands?
View on "feeling" each other?
These are basically all the same question, all those things should wait for marriage...

Marriage is a law of God and sex (and anything sexual in nature) is a gift that he gave us to use for two purposes: to express love to our spouse and to create life. I truly believe if you love and respect the person, you will wait until the appropriate time for all those things...it will be so much more meaningful. Also one will not have the guilt weighing on their mind of "what did I just do"..

Answer 3

No dating (unless in a group) before you're 16.
No pre-marital sex of any kind.

Think of it like this, most people who are not LDS/Mormon talk about "how far they went" on a date in terms of a baseball metaphor. For Mormons, about the only thing we can do is go to the ball park. Holding hands, putting your arm around the other person, are MAJOR things. Sitting next to each other at church (even and especially after age 18) is paramount to an engagement.

Anything that might lead to sex before marriage is a no-no. I know several recently married couples, who are having a big problem consummating their marriage because from the time they were old enough to start thinking about the opposite sex it's been drilled into them to not do stuff that even MIGHT lead to sex.
A friend of mine restricted her teenage daughter to a maximum of 2 dates with a boy. After that, she could only date him again after she had dated 3 other boys.

So, does that answer your questions?

Answer 4

Mormons see pre-marital sex as wrong. Only sexual relations between married couples.
Kissing is okay. There is no standard on what type of kissing. Nothing that leads to sex, so many would say, don't go too far or to long.
Oral sex is wrong outside of marriage. Once married, the church does not have a stance on what married couples do or don't do with each other.
The use of hands to stimulate sexual organs is not appropriate between people who are not married.
Same with "feeling" each other.

Again, before marriage, the church has many rules regarding relationships. However, once married, there is almost no guidance of what married couples can do with each other.

Answer 5

Why not ask the Mormon guy? Sex is a no go, and basically anything else that could ignite the sexual urges and cause one to put thier guards down. Kissing, pretty much it.

Answer 6

The church advises a person not to date outside of the church, but it is allowed.
1) No, like all other religions, the church doesn't approve of premarital sex
2) Yes you can kiss
3) No oral sex
4) You can use your hands to like hug and hold hands and stuff.. but to explore bodies.. that waits until after you are married
5) same as number 4

if you have any other question.. feel free to ask me..

Answer 7

1. Like all religion no pre-marital sex
2. OK
3.Same as sex
4. Again same as sex.
5. No it only leads to trouble.
As for the Catholic side the official church stance is sex is only for reproduction and to spill sperm any other way is a sin.

Answer 8

Anything that involves sexual stimulation is "forbidden" prior to marriage. We have a firm belief that if you think about a sin then it is the same as doing it.

Here are our 13 Articles of Faith outlining what we believe:

1 We believe in God, the Eternal Father, and in His Son, Jesus Christ, and in the Holy Ghost.

2 We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam’s transgression.

3 We believe that through the Atonement of Christ, all mankind may be saved, by obedience to the laws and ordinances of the Gospel.

4 We believe that the first principles and ordinances of the Gospel are: first, Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ; second, Repentance; third, Baptism by immersion for the remission of sins; fourth, Laying on of hands for the gift of the Holy Ghost.

5 We believe that a man must be called of God, by prophecy, and by the laying on of hands by those who are in authority, to preach the Gospel and administer in the ordinances thereof.

6 We believe in the same organization that existed in the Primitive Church, namely, apostles, prophets, pastors, teachers, evangelists, and so forth.

7 We believe in the gift of tongues, prophecy, revelation, visions, healing, interpretation of tongues, and so forth.

8 We believe the Bible to be the word of God as far as it is translated correctly; we also believe the Book of Mormon to be the word of God.

9 We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.

10 We believe in the literal gathering of Israel and in the restoration of the Ten Tribes; that Zion (the New Jerusalem) will be built upon the American continent; that Christ will reign personally upon the earth; and, that the earth will be renewed and receive its paradisiacal glory.

11 We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.

12 We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.

13 We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.
---Joseph Smith

For more information about our beliefs, check out our official website:

Answer 9

The church says dont date out side your religon also any sexual act before marriage is considered wrong, kissing is ok as long as you stay on the lips lol. Plain and simple.

Answer 10

as a former member eons ago, that religion is jacked up they can kiss and hold hands that's about it. ugh I hate Utah for a multitude of reasons