my mum and dad has split up andi chose to live with my dad. he only lives about 5 doors along and i'm moving in today it's really hard for me cause ive een with my mum for 13 years. should i tell my dad how i actully feel.
help
what should i do
thx
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2006-12-05 03:19:32 · 24 answers · asked by danni 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it is better to be honest from the start with both parents as this will work out best in the long run. i'm sure both parents will support you in whatever decision you make at the end of the day they'll want what makes you happy.
plus remember they are only 5 doors apart why dont you do a trial with him first and see how it goes maybe live with him midweek and your mam weekends or vice versa good luck xx
2006-12-05 03:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really understand. my daughter is 12 she lives with her mum. she used to live with me and sometimes i think she would rather be with me. i was on the phone to her for about 4hours the other day.
u have made ur decision. u should really stand by it. if mum is only a few doors away and that seems to be what u have said, u r a very lucky girl and u can have the best of both.
u can tell ur mum that u r finding it hard and reassure her that u love her and will see her as much as u can.
that's about it really.
my daughter is 100 miles away. she wants me to move back to her area. at the moment i would like to but can't as my son is coming up to gcse's.
I liked the idea by dubgirl about splitting ur time. well done dg!
good luck.
2006-12-05 03:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell your dad, how you are feeling as that will help you get to get along together. Tell him that it was a hard choice for you and you hope that you will be able to chat to him about things. However make sure that you remain in touch with your mum and tell her that you love her and you always will
2006-12-05 08:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep all lines of communication open between both your parents. You can say any thing to either of them and they will understand where you're coming from. It's not a slight against your mom that you've chosen to live with your dad so your mom shouldn't feel bad in fact she should feel proud that she chose a man that her child loves and a dad who loves her.
2006-12-05 03:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Dad, talk to your Mum, talk to anyone close to you who will listen.
Imagine how your Mum is feeling today? Have you spoken with her?
There is bound to be alot of emotion today, so just make sure you don't bottle it up inside.
Given time, everything will work out ok in the end.
2006-12-05 04:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents no doubt already know how you feel but it wont hurt to talk it through with them. You're very lucky that mum will still be close by so it wont be as hard as many have it when they lose one parent forever sometimes. I wish you and your mum and dad luck xx
2006-12-05 03:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to live with him fine. Talk to your mom and let her know that you love her and the decision was not to hurt her, and you still want to do mother daughter things with her and call her. Also tell her that you just want to get to know your father more, and to do more things with him. This is a chance for you to do so. Just make sure to include your mother still in your life so she does not feel left out. I'm sure she is sad to see you go, but more than likely understands your need to go.
2006-12-05 03:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by a h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is going to understand how hard this is for you and he'll respect you so much for coming to him in such a mature manner. It will probably help your relationship with both parents if you talk to them. (I wouldn't sit them together, definately do it at different times)
They're probably really worried about you as it is, parents splitting up is no easy thing and you may put their minds at ease as well as making yourself feel better. Killing two birds with one stone so to speak.
2006-12-05 03:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before making any desions try to spend two weeks with ur mom and then two weeks with ur dad .. at this time all of u guys are going to similar experience is hard for all of you to live without each other... tell you mother how you feel and tell your daddy how you feel. NO lies. just be you and support both of them before making a decision who u want to live with.
2006-12-05 03:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she only lives 5 doors down! so wenever ur missing her shes only a few seconds away.
yeah tell ur dad that u'll find it hard, if he screams and shouts then u know that you chose the wrong person
good luck
xxxxxxx
2006-12-05 03:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Button.Monster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋