my boyfriend posted a question about me, because I have cheated on him after I went through postpartum depression with my second child, I thought he was cheating on me so i cheated on him. I cheated on him one other time not sexual but just talking after the birth of my first child. I don't know what was wrong with me, but we broke up the second time and he wanted me back I didn't want to get back with him at first because I knew our relationship would be stuck, we had another child together and I have been faithful with him since we've been back together, I know Im ready to be commited but he thinks I'm going to cheat on him again, Ive been wanting to get married cause we do have 3 children and been together for 8 yrs but he don't Im confused and dont know what to do. he said that he's not letting himself get any closer to me which upset me. I know what I did was wring but it was 4 years ago, What should I do?
2006-12-05 03:12:36 · 10 answers · asked by luv_meforever_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave things as they are--he will come to terms with it on his own. Things will work out the way they are supposed to. Just don't oush him--or you may lose him. It takes some people awhile to get through this kind of thing.
2006-12-05 03:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend the two of you get some counseling. It sounds like there are a lot of issues on the table that need to be dealt with before you two could have a successful relationship. You're likely better off apart until you can work through the issues. If you both love one another, you owe it to your kids to give it a shot.
2006-12-05 11:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by alighier 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg gurl im sorry but i know u love him and all but im a lez and my ex cheated on me twice and the second time it was with my lil bro and i took her back but then i started to realize that my fealings started to fade for her cuz of what she did i could never feel the same for her agian i know it isnt smilar to what u r goin threw but i told her that i would rather tell her that than lead her on i mean i still lover her and all but i dont think i will ever be with her again and maybe that is what he is goin threw but he cares about u to much to hurt u so he is sacraficing his own feelings for urs well if i was u i would talk to him bout his feelings and tell im that if u want to let me go just tell me i would rather u do that than lead me on. i have been led on befor and it hurts i know. i know it might not have been what u wanted to hear but there r more fish in the sea and i know u will find that someone that wants to get close to u no mater what ur past is whats in the past is in the past think about the future well i hope i helped u
2006-12-05 11:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on each other??? I wouldn't get married under these circumstances. Both of you should get counseling. The bottom line is that the children need to come first.......do what's in their best interest, not yours!!!
2006-12-05 11:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you have three kids with him I guess do what any other woman would do and is find some other guy and rake this guy for child support till he wishes he had stayed with you
2006-12-05 11:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he want to marry you when you are a cheater? I wouldn't trust you either. Find someone else and start with a clean slate and be the descent partner God intended you to be.
2006-12-05 11:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by SheRa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to make a promise or say stuff that interests him and will MAKE you guys get closer.
2006-12-05 11:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by summergorske 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really want to work it out you have to build that trust again. its not going to happen over night... you need to assure him that it won't happen again.. it may take a while but you messed up... and now needs some TLC all over again
2006-12-05 11:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by lala15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not willig to commit ,, set yourself free
2006-12-05 11:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by herosam2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you screwed up my dear, it's probably too late
2006-12-05 11:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by chastityelizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋