I have been dating this guy for a little over a month now and we seem to enjoy each other’s company. He talks and talks about how he wants to be with just me and how he's not dating other people. On the other hand, I have made it very clear that I'm not ready to just date one person. I am really starting to like him though so I told him, “You’re starting to make me not want to see other guys.” And he said, “Good.” Then the next morning, we woke up and he said, “So what else do I have to do to make you not want to see other guys?” things. What is THAT all about??? He’s just so hot and cold. It makes me think maybe I am reading him all wrong. What in the world should I do and should I just continue to see my other guy friends?
2006-12-05 03:03:11 · 7 answers · asked by sarcastchic1124 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been dating this guy for a little over a month now and we seem to enjoy each other’s company. He talks and talks about how he wants to be with just me and how he's not dating other people. On the other hand, I have made it very clear that I'm not ready to just date one person. I am really starting to like him though so I told him, “You’re starting to make me not want to see other guys.” And he said, “Good.” Then the next morning, we woke up and he said, “So what else do I have to do to make you not want to see other guys?” So I decide to be exlcusive and tell him and he's all "Let's not talk about it or we'll jinx it." HUH? What is THAT all about??? He’s just so hot and cold. It makes me think maybe I am reading him all wrong. What in the world should I do? And I am NOT having sex with him or anyone else. I'm just trying to be friends with everyone now. But this is the one I like. :(
2006-12-05 08:53:23 · update #1
I don't understand your question...it sounds like he REALLY likes you and wants you to himself. why not just take each day as it comes..if you don't want to se other guys you won't...but I wouldn't see other guys just to get some clarity. If you're unsure, best thing is to spend some time alone.
2006-12-05 03:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you slept with him, which means you sleep around with other guys. That is not "seeing" that is "screwing".
That you are sleeping with a guy you met a month ago, and others, doesn't speak well of you, that guy or the other guys...sorry to say, but more sorry to see it.
You have crossed the line of morality.
So why question morality, his or yours? This is throwing caution to the wind. You have abandoned the safe road and now you are in risky territory.
This is what in the world you should do...
I suggest you pull back from all these guys and question yourself seriously why you are not valuing a committed relationship? and why you are giving yourself so cheaply?
This guy isn't much better than you in this dept.
I'm not judging you as much as shaking my head...anyway we all are born ignorant and blind and we make mistakes. Now try to get a grip on yourself and then think about giving access to others to grip you. You are selling yourself short.
Have some self-respect and this guy or any other will value you for life (not just for the night). You are an easy lay to them. They will never commit to you or trust you if you behave like this.
Set some boundaries (like no entering the bed until you pay the price...commitment for life). Otherwise you will never get their respect.
Hope this helps you. I am praying for you.
2006-12-05 03:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by TransformYour.World 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a good look at some of my "blogs". . .
Mr. Ryan Klink is the ultimate exsample of what your talking about. . .
You know I think we'll benfit from just knowing eachother and I hope you take comfort in knowing you are no thte only one suffering from a man's immaturity.
2006-12-05 03:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is into you, but his 'cold' response was probably his way of protecting himself because you didn't say for sure that you didn't want to see other guys, but that you are 'starting to make me not want to see other guys' yes, that is a step in the right direction, but he probably wanted it to be yes or no to whether the two of you should be exclusive...you are in this limbo stage. If you enjoy spending time with him, but don't know if you are ready for commitment, tell him, so he can decide if that is good enough or be prepared that he may want to just move on to find something more definite.
2006-12-05 03:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him when you don't understand him. Let him know that he needs to be clearer and less "hot and cold" as you described it. He needs to either want you, or not.
2006-12-05 03:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by gabrielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probly does want to be with you... and you basicly told him that he isnt good enough for you to only be with him...... if you want to be with this guy you better get rid of all the other guys.... how would you feel if he told you that you make him want to see other girls???? it kind of shitty to say that to someone....
2006-12-05 03:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just you
2006-12-05 03:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋