he shows me no respect, he's always on the phone w/ 1 girl or another, & he never takes me anywhere or does anything w/ me. he acts like he's above & beyond everyone. eveybody is supposed to do what he says when he says.he'll come home from work,shower & goes right back out the door. on friday's he comes home showers & leaves & i wont see him again til early sunday morning. we were living together til i put him out friday night.he never gives me $ to help pay the rent or to buy food so i never gave him a key to my apt. i love love him but im fed up. was i wrong in putting him out?
2006-12-05 02:17:44 · 36 answers · asked by lovey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you have the right plan working. If he is a bum treat him like one.
2006-12-05 02:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by jessica a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should have done it the first time he starts doing that. Your love for someone will not change who they are. They have to do that on their own. He definitely don't love you. Don't let your feeling get in the way of what's important (you). You will be just fine and I am so proud of you. Some people stay in a relationship too long when being treated that way and just waste a big part of their lives dealing with it when it only gets worse. You did the right thing and don't ever feel badly about it. I am sure he did not feel anything for you when he was doing all that. God Bless You! You will find love again.
2006-12-05 02:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID RIGHT! GOOD GIRL! Someone like you who gives so much definitely needs at least a little in return and some appreciation for being there all the time. Don't even think about it or feel guilty. You thought right and did right. Love will remain in your heart for him but let it not confuse you to submission towards this kind of behaviour. Cheers to you! Live life well, be noticed and respected just as you respect others!
2006-12-05 02:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!!!!! You were as right as the day is long. This is your place and your taking care of all the responsibilities. Nobody can get something for nothing. But even if I gave him the benefit of doubt and assumed he was strapped for $, that still gives him no right to disrespect you. If so wrapped up in those other chicks let him go freeload off of them. I know i might sound harsh but I was in this situation before and I learned that you have to respect yourself to get respect from anyone else. And I'm not saying throw him to the dogs but stick to your guns for awhile before you let him come back. If you don't he won't take you seriously and he'll do it all over again, and who has time for that.
2006-12-05 02:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah helllls no..girl you did the right thing..you put his A*s out of your place..your are the one footing the money for the bills..how long have you been with this loser?...in a relationship sweetie it is all about R E S P E C T..and he had none for u so why feel guilty..I understand you love him and all..but he was not willing to change or help you in any way...and to make it worse he is working..so he can afford to give even if it is $50 for food or to put towards a cable bill or phone bill...if you do take him back..just make sure that he understand that you are not willing to put up with his behavior..good luck
2006-12-05 02:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn it took you this long to get rid of that guy! I say good riddance to bad rubbish. You can do much better with your life than pinning of a guy that is sucking the life out of you. Take that word love and throw it away as it relates to you. Don't love him because that is getting you nowhere but used. So you did the right thing. I am just mad at you for putting up with that crap for so long.
2006-12-05 02:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no you weren't wrong--it's about time you respected yourself. This doesn't sound like a fun relationship the way you have described it. You deserve someone who wants to make you happy. He sounds very selfish and self-focused. Stick to your guns and make decisions that are in your best interest. Staying in this relationship will only keep you from meeting someone that could put you first. You seem like a strong woman. Hang in there!
2006-12-05 02:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!. YOU ARE NOT WRONG. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! APPLAUSE APPLAUSE APPLAUSE.
The only thing you did wrong was you let him get away with that more than once, But it's understandable, & you have learned & grown. I hope the door hit him so hard in the a** that he's still on the upward curve of his fall.
Do yourself a favour & get over him real fast.
Now you can find a guy that will pay attention to YOU!
CONGRATULATIONS HONEY!
2006-12-05 02:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You were absolutely correct to put him out. If there is no respect, no consideration, thwn what is there really? Sounds like a one sided relationship that you had the courage and sense to end. Make it permanent. He'll just keep behaving liek he is the most privileged being on earth until someone knocks him on his butt.
2006-12-05 02:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by Faedra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , you did the right thing. hes just using you for a place to stay and food he doesn't help you out you are better off with out him. Im proud of you throwing him out. you deserve someone better. I wouldn't take him back if he comes begging and saying he has no where to go. just tell him to go where he always go.that your not letting him back in and show him you are fed up.
2006-12-05 02:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! you did the right thing. Now go out there and find a REAL man who will help support you and be there for you when you need. NO man who loved a woman would do those things to her. Good luck to you! Stay away from losers!
2006-12-05 02:20:48 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋