The guy i like asked me out, but i didn't no wt 2 say. I sed i didn't know if i wanted to go out with him as i didn't want to ruin things. He then said just to forget about it and he has 'fucked stuff up'. Will he still like me? what does he mean? Serious answers only please! x x
2006-12-05 02:17:01 · 16 answers · asked by x--becki--x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want serious answers the ask the question in a serious way, proper spelling and sentence structure.
2006-12-05 02:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh ho ho! This is very typical of the confusion and the learning process that goes on during puberty. How fun!
Women are ALWAYS saying "I don't know why I rejected him... I kinda liked him... he was cute... why did I say that?" At any age. It's completely normal! And it happens for a reason.
Men, also, especially at a young age, are prone towards giving up quickly. Failure is embarrassing and we learn from a very young age to avoid it as much as possible. Which is why very few people are genuinely "successful" in this life; we are not willing to fail.
I believe your rejection is a built-in mechanism of being a woman. Think about it. If a shy, dorky guy with no confidence approaches you and you reject him, what's he most likely to do? Scamper away with his tail between his legs. If a confident, strong guy were to approach you and you initially reject him? Well, he might just be confident enough to try again and you might a second chance at accepting him. The result? You weeded away the less confident guy and kept the more confident one. And who would you rather be with? I thought so. So embrace that reaction, it'll serve you well in the future.
2006-12-05 02:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the boy, but if he's anywhere near being virtuous he's nowhere close to actually giving up on you. All people deal with rejection differently, especially amongst males, but he probably went into a stage of sorrow, and in a need to avoid making the situation worse, tried to make you forget it had happened at all.
Oh, and about the latter statement, sometimes men, without meaning to, automatically say something to make the other person feel guilty, out of their own feelings of guilt and awkwardness.
I highly doubt he's begrudging you. It's basically a 100% guarantee he still likes you.
2006-12-05 02:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Maitreya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's embarrassed that he took the risk of asking you out on a date and you rejected him. Guys hate rejection--they have fragile egos. You may have been reluctant to accept the date for a reason--maybe your gut instinct told you to say no. If that's not the case and you do want to go out with him, it's easy enough to remedy. Tell him you didn't know what to say when he asked you out, that he took you by surprise, and that if he's still interested you'd love to make plans. He may like it that you've had more time to consider things and do want to go out with him. Your initial rejection will let him know that you aren't quick to accept dates with just anyone and want to make sure it's what you want. Then...make him work for your attention. Good Luck
2006-12-05 02:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now he thinks you only wanted to be his friend and didn't like him in that way...The fucked stuff up probably means that he thinks things will become akward between the two of u and you'll eventually se less & less of each other because of it...Hence his move on u fucked things up...
2006-12-05 02:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Joey_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u text him nd tell him u do like him and ur sorry and that u do want to go out with him. it probs took him months to pluck up the courage to ask u. He'll love it if you do and he'll understand if u explain.
xx
2006-12-05 02:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels like he's made a mistake by asking you out, maybe even in the way he asked you out, and now he feels you are not interested in him.
2006-12-05 02:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by ryrama29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men have fragile egos.
and you have hurt his.
why dont you try talking to him and just explain how you feel.
maybe if you cant face him face to face try texting or emailing him.
why not ask him out on the same text / conversation...?
good luck
2006-12-05 02:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games and talk like adults about what you want to the guy. Do you want him to guess how you feel ? It just does not work that way...
2006-12-05 02:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by stoutseun69 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he talks like that then you don't want to be with him.
He dosn't sound caring to me just full of himself
Good Luck
Jeff
2006-12-05 02:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋