i want to know how to get over a first love as he died over 10 years ago?

Question

i also want to know if there is a way i can contact him to see if he is ok i live in australia so JOHN EDWARDS is out of the question

Answer 1

I saw this and had to answer....Sabrina, i know how much you loved dwayne, and it is understandable that you feel the way you do about his death, as it was a tragic way to lose someone, i know how much it tore you up, but listen sweets, knowing the situation and having known you a long time, i feel you need to begin the greiving process, not exactly letting go, but putting him at at rest so that you too can be.....the continual torture you put yourself through, because of guilt, will never pass unless you are willing to let go of the guilt that you feel.
Arrange with your doctor to see a psychiatrist.....
write a diary (if you have to, think of them as letters to dwayne) .....
talk to someone, if you cant talk to family, there are groups (support groups through pirie hospital) that can help as well, sometimes talking to a stranger wholeheartedly about your grief, can do wonders....

If there is noone else, talk to me, i have sent you my im address, at least i know most of the siuation.

I know no one can possibly ever fully understand what you are going through, but there are people out there willing to try to understand and listen.....

Answer 2

This is a rough one. In my opinion, you don't get over your first love. It will always stay with you. Do you honestly want to "get over it" ? In such an unfortunate circumstance I would suggest taking everything that you loved so much about this person, putting it into a very safe place in your heart and carry it with you always. Your first love is a very big part of who you are today. The hardest part is dealing with the loss, but as long as he is still in your heart, than you have not really lost him have you. There is other love out there for you, just as wonderful as your first. You have to have an open heart to find it though. Smile and live your life knowing how much you once loved him, and look forward to the day when the chance comes again. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Please do the following for me:
Watch this DVD. . .

What Dreams may Come

You will never "get over" the loss of your love.
You will carry him with you. . .you will take all he brought to your life and spill it over like wine onto the life you make with the person you choose to be with. . all the good in your life, including this great love will enhance your future and your eternity with love. . .remember luv. . .remember that.

I can take the rain on the roof of this empty house, that don't bother me
I can take a few tears now and then and just let them out
I'm not afraid to cry
Every once in a while even though goin on with you gone still upsets me
There are days
Every now and again i pretend i'm okay but that's not what gets me

What hurts the most, was being so close
And having so much to say
And watchin you walk away
Never knowing, what could have been
And not seein that lovin you
Is what i was tryin to do

It's hard to deal with the pain of losing you everywhere i go
But i'm doin it
It's hard to force that smile when i see our old friends and i'm alone
Still harder gettin up, gettin dressed, livin with this regret
But i know if i could do it over
I would trade, give away all the words that i saved in my heart that i left unspoken

What hurts the most, is being so close
And having so much to say
And watchin you walk away
Never knowing, what could have been
And not seein that lovin you
Is what i was tryin to do

What hurts the most, was being so close
And having so much to say
And watchin you walk away
And never knowing, what could have been
And not seein that lovin you
Is what i was tryin to do

not seein that lovin you
that’s what I was tryin to do…

Answer 4

You have to let go, however, grief is different for everyone. You need to take as much time as you need. You may want to consider some grief counseling. You can call your local hospice organization. Many offer free or low cost counseling and also provide group sessions. Many times it is helpful to be around others who have suffered the same loss and see that your feelings are valid. And others are suffering and having the same issues. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

Wow... Ok. That Sheryl Crow song really says it all. The first cut is the deepest. You will NEVER completely get over him, noone really ever gets over their first true love, its with you always. That one person is the SOLE person responsible for teaching you how to love, and you'll never EVER love like that again. Just realize he is in a better place and someday, you will see him again.

Answer 6

its really kinda hard forgetting or dumping it just like that. it takes time to forget. there are many things to consider... u have to accept that he's really gone. try not to reminisce the memories u have esp the good ones. it will only make u missed him and long for him. try to control urself whenever he's in ur thought. best is go out and meet other people. but try not to compare him to ur first love cuz it wont work.

Answer 7

Well there is really no way to get over him. I mean you can dating somebody else but I seriously doubt that will work. No matter what you do your first love will always be your first and you can't get over him. I am really sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

my heartfelt sympathy, there is no way of getting over our first love but we can move on and let time help you heal the wounds it have left you and just keep the good memories you have and go on with your life and soon those good memories will help you meet somebody who will assist you to a happy, wonderful life.

Answer 9

10 years?
you should have gotten over him by now. you will never forget the love you two shared together, but you have to move on, mentally it is necessary.

Answer 10

sorry to hear that..
well the best way is to start hanging out with other guys..or join a social club and keep yourself as busy as u can..then you'd slowly forget him..
The Lord bless him...