My daughter forgot her progress folder at school so I waited outside for her to bring it to me so I could sign it. Her little friend walked up to my vehicle pouting because her mom forgot to sign hers and asked me to sign it so she wouldnt get detention. So I signed her dads name to it for her. Now i'm second guessing what I did. She said that her mom wouldnt be mad but i'm worried that she might be. Your opinions please?
2006-12-05 02:06:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They are 3rd graders. Don't you think it's kind of harsh to give an eight year old detention if the parents don't sign it? Or forget to sign it once in 4 months of school?
2006-12-05 02:11:03 · update #1
It's not a progress report, it's a progress folder for the week. I was looking through it and noticed that her mom has signed ever week this year. Thanks for all of the advice. I've tried to call her mom but haven't been able to get through. I know this little girl too. She's not trying to hide bad work.
2006-12-05 02:20:47 · update #2
I finally got in touch with the mother and she's not angry at me. I guess they were in a mad rush and she had already looked at the papers but forgot to sign it. Again, thanks to everyone who answered this question. I've learned the hard way that sometimes I can be impulsive and make bad decisions.
2006-12-05 02:37:52 · update #3
I would have done it to. We mothers have a soft spot for kids and dont like to see kids get into trouble.You did the right thing. Just let the other parents know that you did it for the best interest of the child .They wont be mad.
2006-12-05 02:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by little_gizmo2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably think it's a bit weird but if the report didn't say anything bad I would brush it off and probably be happy my kid didn't get detention. But I would also talk to my kid and tell them not to do anything like that again bc in the end I have to know about my child's progress.
You could always call the parent and tell them what happened and that you did it without thinking it through. Just explain that their kid was really scared about detention and you felt bad.
And yes, detention is a bit harsh.
2006-12-05 02:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my child was hiding something from me, I'd be angry with him.
If another parent was helping to hide something, I'd be angry.
In the case you describe, where the child was not hiding anything and the parent was known to us and only trying to help, AND let me know about it ASAP, I would not be angry.
Schools need to stop punishing children for their parent's actions.
When I was in Middle School, the school was near enough my house that the bus would not pick me up, but far enough I was not allowed by my mom to walk. Instead, my stepdad drove me each morning. The bell rang at 8, the tardy bell at 8:05- at 8 each morning he would get up from the table, stretch, and head for the bathroom. I trusted the adult to get me to school on time, and since class was not actually started each day when I entered the room, I had no idea I was missing the bell every day and racking up tardies....until I got a notice that I had so many tardies I'd earned a weeks detention.
Because my stepdad's lazy *** couldn't get going 10 minutes sooner.
And even though my mom went to the school and explained, I still had to serve the detention. They said that in MS we were old enough to be responsible for getting to school on time....
2006-12-05 05:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be because I am an active parent. I love to see how my child is doing in school and I expect the things that get sent home come to me. If there is something I need to be aware of I want to know. Worse case scenario would be that the parents are mad. But you could always call them and explain the situation. Maybe that way you can save a little face. Good luck and please don't do it again.
2006-12-05 02:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad if it was my kid. Our school has the same type of policy, the idea is to teach responsibility. If you know this girls parents well give a call and let them know what you did, make it clear that you were not trying to help her be dishonest and if her parents ould have rather had her be in trouble for not getting it signed she can be punished at home. The ideal situation would be for her to tell her parents but I know my boys wouldn't admit it to me.
2006-12-05 02:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the whole system is cruel. That's a tough one. I think if you prevented my daughter from getting in trouble I'd be glad about that but also a little miffed about having to have my name forged. I don't think a little girl is a good one to consult about whether her mom would be mad (there were plenty of things I thought my mom wouldn't be mad about but I was very wrong lots of times). I guess it probably would have been better not to do it but if you signed for my child and you actually knew me I wouldn't mind.
2006-12-05 02:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant imagine a school punishing a child forgetting a progress report envelope....that sounds extremely harsh. I don't think I would have signed it, you could be severely punished and sent to the principals office.....(ha-ha, just kidding!!) Plus you should have been the adult and told her if that was her punishment than that's what she gets for forgetting....What really was the lesson taught here?? That the child now knows adults think its OK to be dishonest....you should feel bad...I'm sure your intentions were good here....but see what your outcome will be....
2006-12-05 02:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have signed your name with a note since you know the mom. Then called her.
By forging the dad's name you sent a message that it is okay to lie - by signing your name you are affirming that the kid tried and you witnessed the work.
Overall your intentions were good and I read the whole thing.
Yes it's harsh.
2006-12-05 03:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart was in the right place. If I was that little girl's dad and I found out that you had done that... so that my daughter wouldn't get detention...even if I disagreed with what you had done, I would certainly understand that you had taken a well-intended risk.
Anyone who would put up a stink over that would have to be more partial to principle than people.
2006-12-05 02:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that you shouldn't have done that. But it all depends on how well you know the girls parents, and if you really believe they wouldn't have had a problem with it. If I were you I would talk to her Mom about it and see where things stand if a situation like that ever occurred again.
2006-12-05 02:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by employeenumber12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋