have u ever become friend with you ex after he ended the realtionship? WHy? Why not??
2006-12-05 02:02:47 · 21 answers · asked by kellydarcey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With very few exceptions, I'm still friends with all my exes. I think in my case it's because I only go out with (or marry) people who are my friends. It's hard to be in any kind of relationship with someone if there's love or lust but no "like". Besides, it's good karma to forgive.
2006-12-05 02:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....a former boyfriend taught me how to be friends after we stopped dating and also taught me the value of maintaining the friendship. It was alittle awkward at first, and I questioned his motives. I think part of the reason he wanted to continue the friendship was to do 'damage control' and ensure that I didn't run him down to mutual friends. It's hard to withhold criticism when he talks about dating someone 22 yrs. younger now and how cool he thought that was--it seems to work out fine as long as I don't comment on things I thought were not within his character. It's nice to have the resource of a good friend though that could come to my aid in the event I found myself in a situation with someone else that I couldn't get out of--although I admit it would take a very drastic circumstance to actually call him under those circumstances. But I have learned how to maintain the friendship and it was a good lesson. I'm more open to the idea now....but it's not just any ex-boyfriend that I could stay friends with. I usually avoid ex-boyfriends at all cost to avoid having to be introduced to their new love interest or leaving the impression that I still cared about him romantically.
2006-12-05 10:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex became friends after we decided to end the relationship, but then we realized that we still had feelings for each other and didnt want the other to date so we got back together. I dont know why we keep trying to do the friend thing! it never works. If you both love each other watch out, that "friendship" could back fire and you two could be getting married
2006-12-05 10:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ended the relationship with my ex g/f a couple years ago. We went almost a year bitter towards each other but since then have moved past that and we have a casual friendship now. Why? Because why not.
2006-12-05 10:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would prob like to be friends with my ex one day... Not yet though.. We broke up 4 months ago, after 4 years... we tried the 'lets be friends thing' for the 1st two months, it was too hard for me and i told her to not speak/contact/see me, because i felt so intensly towards her, since im really startin to get on with my life... maybe we'll be friends in the future, when i suppose i dont love her any more :-(
Your relationship has to be based on a 'friendship' and she was my best friend..
Life goes on !
2006-12-05 10:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is one of my best friends. I think we were really good friends before we started dating so when we broke up it was mutual. We have very good communication. I still get his advice and help and he still gets mine. But you have to be at a level that you are not still in love with the person cause more than likely it won't work. We moved on as far as dating goes but we still cherish our friendship.
2006-12-05 10:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by ikkinaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be a bad thing and a good thing. The bad part is sometimes guys will use you and then do things just to make you jealous. The good thing is sometimes they use you as there best friend because deep down they still have feelings for you.
2006-12-05 10:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by mtzshorty3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have...always!!
I kept in contatact with all of my previous lovers.
This is just me...this is what i do,am a very open girl and i like keeping friends and no enemies.There is no point in that.The reason is that i come from a very small community and there is no point in letting anyone spreading out roumors about me. So i keep my friendship and am happy...Diplomacy.... :)
2006-12-05 10:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in almost all cases! If I hadn't liked them in the first place I wouldn't have gone out with them! It takes a while sometimes though as it can be hard at first if you have mixed up feelings for each other.
2006-12-05 10:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not become friends with my Ex.... It was too hard to see them and brought back memories....
Now I have had friends who are friends with their Ex....
2006-12-05 10:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋