If you can help me about my friend. She is married have two kids and a great husband. But at the moment she lives in another city cuz she have a decent job. Her husband with the kids live in another city. They are not divorced...but just they are working in different places. They love each other and have a great kids.They are having succsess.they are students.
She told me that know the company offered her a bigger position with a bigger salary. And just in the moment when she wanted to move back with her husband...a splendid job opportunity came along. She wants to stay at least 6 months, just to prove the others in company that she is capable...but in the other hand she miss her family ....
any advice, have you been in similar situation...please just give us your opinion about it ,
thanks .
2006-12-05 01:39:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I moved to Baltimore MD from Mississippi 6 months before I moved my family up. I doubled my income. After a year of not working, my wife was about to pull her hair out, staying at home so we bought another car and she found a job that she really enjoys. We moved from where we were because the new place proved to be a better place to raise a family. The schools here are 98% out of 100% and in Mississippi they were 87%. Cost of living is more, but it was worth the move. So if she can fly home once a month for a weekend, do it for 6 months or so, until she can find a place to move the family. Then if the area is better for the children, make the move. Long distance relationships are difficult, married or not. I would not recommend pushing it past 6 months.
2006-12-05 01:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in a similar situation the wrestling with yourself is the worst without a confirmation whether you took the right decision after wards.
The woman's heart has told already what to do with no-pay back in that sense from proving others : proof might be there at the cost of children and husband.
The knowledge that she is able to do that job would be satisfying enough and left at that one might think.
2006-12-05 11:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jumper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, something will have to suffer...the kids & husband or her career. If it were me, I would choose my family first. You only get one shot at raising your kids and seeing them grow up. She is missing alot of that and I think down the raod as her children get older, she may regret having chosen career over family. I can also see her side...she has a great opportunity at a shot in moving up the ladder. Like I said, something will suffer in this decision. I hope she chooses her family. In the big picture of things...it will give her more satisfaction in the long run.
2006-12-05 09:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not move to one or the other is? Who makes the most money and who is the one that will finish school quickest? That's the one that should stay and the other move to. The one who moved can find another job and enroll in a different university. People do it all the time.
2006-12-05 09:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is just my opinion but family comes first you cant put your kids off for a job. You had the kids, raise them. They will eventually grow up and then its your time to shine. get a job in the town your husband and kids are in and enjoy motherhood!
2006-12-05 09:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by heather j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋