so well i kno its common that often when your on date usually a guy pays for girl so heres my situation i m bout to date this guy but i dont know wether just to wait until he pays or half half or may be later coffee from my treat ohhh i dont know does that sound good? but when a girl offers to pay do you think guys feel a bit down?
2006-12-05 01:28:46 · 20 answers · asked by chick on fire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not that they feel down, its just a guy thing. They feel like they're taking care of you when you let them pay. But a good way to judge is whoever offers to go out to eat, is the one that pays. If he offers then he pays. If you offer then you pay. Since I mean it wouldnt always be fair that he pays all the time if you ask ya know. It can usually work out that way. Good Luck
2006-12-05 02:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! There is nothing wrong in offering to pay for your meal. Except that it isn't very nice when you pay for just yours. As much as guys spend on us girls, we should spend on them too every once in a while. Instead of saying 'half and half', tell him, "I'll get this one, if that's okay with you?" and smile wide and mean it. Mostly they won't let you do it. But if he does, it's still ok. When you are done paying (if he let you), ask him which place you both are going to try out next, so he doesn't think you are knocking him off after this date. During that next time, you let him get the tab. :-) Don't hesitate to offer each time. They always smile and laugh and say, "No way you are paying for this"...haha. If he never lets you pay, then YES, get him coffees and ice-creams and smaller stuff at least if not a big meal...lol
2006-12-05 09:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you a guys mentality on this one.
If it's your first date, and he asked you out, offering to pay may send a mixed signal that the date might not be going so well. That you paying is a way to rid yourself of any further "obligation" to the date. I know this may not be the case, but it's a guy's train of thought here. Let him pay for the first date, especially if he asked you out.
If you've been dating a while, then don't feel bad about ponying up for some dates. He'll feel that you've considered him someone that is worth investing your money into.
Hope that helps somewhat.
2006-12-05 09:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy. For some guys such as me, we believe women are liberated and have the financial means to be able to pay for themselves. While I do say that, if a girl offered to pay, I would quietly insist that I cover the bill. It's a nice gesture that you aren't using the guy but the coffee offer sounds great. Good luck.
2006-12-05 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by joe19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should just let it go in the sence that you can just let the waiter drop it on the table if he does not collect it and then after a while you pick it up i don't think you should make the first move cuz with most guys if you do then it will be like that most times if you guys go out again.Like they say don't start what you can't finish except you are ready to always be paying for the bills.
2006-12-05 09:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its tru that guys r expected to pay 4 dates...but i think thats really unfair. it would b ideal if u offer to split the bill on the first date...bcoz ur obviously a fair minded gal, n u wudnt wanna giv the guy the impression that ur a cheapskate n ur jus dating him so he can pay 4 everything. ud want him 2 c that ur willing 2 be open n fair =) its up 2 the guy 2 take ur offer.by doing this, u giv him an option...
1) he cud be grateful that u offered ( i dont think guys wud feel down if u offered to pay, theyd probably really appreciate it)
2) he may wanna be a gentle men n pay 4 u...
so its a win win both ways =)
2006-12-05 09:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel down if a woman pays the bill. Because if one day in your life you get married you are going to have more money then your husband, And the wife pays. And if a woman ask the guy out then the woman pays, But if a guy ask a woman out then he pays.
2006-12-05 09:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel let down, but I do like to pay at least until we know each other better and maybe work out something, I know that when I pay I feel that it's important to let a girl know that chivalry isn't completely dead, paying and opening the door for a lady are things you can do to help your case.Of course if you're with a girl that totally doesn't appreciate it, then you might need to move on. I had a girl get upset with me when I opened the door for her, she claimed she could do it herself and didn't need me to do it, needless to say, It was a short date.
2006-12-05 09:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Holydiver_33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Protocol if that's what your speaking about, is to make arraignments before hand. It's not uncouth to ask the guy, if you want to go halfsies or you'll pick up the tip. If he's taken you out several times and there's a good movie you'd like to see you can invite him, telling him you'll treat. that would be nice. Or, as you suggested tell him in advance to think about somewhere to go for coffee afterward and you'll treat.
Your the first female in a thousand answers that ever thought about this, I command you on it.
2006-12-05 09:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't always have to the guy... If you set a date then you pay unless he offers to pay his part.
If he sets the date..then you offer to pay a bit.
Alternatively, he pays for one thing and you pay another...he does movie tickets..you do concession stand.
My hubby and I had this same problem when we were courting....he was appreciative that i would pay especially if i set up the date.....dating does hit a guy's wallet hard....ease his burden
2006-12-05 09:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by eyeneva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋