im going to say this straight up and what ever i get back negative or positive will be a great help right now.
i am a single mum of 3 children, 4half years ago my brother seriously harmed a young child and was sentanced to 6 years in prison,as a result of this my parents where told via a meeting with myself and SS that they could only have supervised contact with my kids,my parents as a result took me to court to seek unsupervised contact,The court case is still ongoing,dureing this time my children have got a court appointed childrens gaurdian,.A finding of fact case was held and findings where made against my mum of failing to protect me has a child.Last week SS held a child protection meeting and placed my kids on the reg,y/day the court made a ruleing that my dad was not allow any contact with my children true reason i dont know.Now i myself have to have SS assesments and risk assems,I cannot fit anymore on here and i understand i have to protect my kids,What are SS really doing?
2006-12-05 01:25:27 · 12 answers · asked by HappilyConfused 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my parents tryed to adopt my bro's newborn baby at the time as he was in prison and the mother of the child SS had said was a unfit mum,that is how all this started,my parents had to go through a SS assesment on my parents capabilities to look after this little girl it came back against them,my parents took me to court like i said,i had to go through a Caffcass assesment,a S worker went against the court appointed guardian and i was still able to supervise my parents with my children,Due to historical files/findings which have been through a finding of fact hearing and came back that there is insicnificate findings against my dad,in the child protection meeting i had a child protection officer showed/said something to the people in the room i had to leave along with the court guardian so i dont know what that was,i walked out half way through the vote at that meeting as i realized that this was nothing to do with me has a mum but more a family member,?i have a solicitor already
2006-12-05 09:28:16 · update #1
I am all for children being protected but it seems in quite
a lot of times they do get it wrong.
It maybe that things in the past have been uncovered
that you are not privy to and these are why they are being so protective.
The history of your family is bad,the only way i can put it,
and caution is the way forward for you.
You have the children and that is whats most important
not your parents siblings or even dad to kids its you and
those children.
If you comply with the courts findings and you are together that
is what counts.Good luck hope things go well for you and
the little one`s Dad in UK
2006-12-05 01:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are being over protective but in this day and age, who can blame them..? I don't understand why your parents have to have supervised contact if it was your brother who harmed another child though - it all sounds a bit confusing....
Do you not want your parents to have contact? Did your dad do something to you or your brother when you were children? Thats how they are making it sound.........
Sorry I can't be of any help to you - I hope you get the result you want and that you and your children are safe and happy xx
2006-12-05 01:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Trillyp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are under qualified and over paid nosy people who are there only when they are NOT needed. The kids who DO need them to get involved are not helped!!! The victims have NO rights, just the perpetrators! They destroy family and parents are so afraid of CPS that kids are not disciplined at all. Now we have all these little thugs everywhere because as adults we have no power over these little hoodlums who need a good spanking ( on the bottom) not a TIME OUT! Our prisons are full of people who were only in TIME OUT...It is a farce of a program run by idiots...a form of BIG BROTHER!
2006-12-05 01:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm........... complicated but it sounds like they are looking after your kids interests and covering all aspects. Sounds like they may have unearthed something a bit naughty about your dad that maybe put you at risk. They say that abusers often are the abused and being your brother has commited an offence I assume they just want to make sure that you are sound and stable and dont require and help or councilling etc. xx
2006-12-05 01:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this. Why is SS involved with you and your kids if it was your brother who harmed a child? One thing has nothing to do with the other unless something is missing from the story.
2006-12-05 01:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your life is under a microscope..everything looks ugly. I think SS is out of control. Never the less do EVERYTHING they say..you can't fight them..and you have everything to loose. Good luck.
2006-12-05 01:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Marti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is important to keep in mind Child Services make mistakes. They are understaffed, overworked, and the amount of red-tape bs they have is incredible. You need to be the child's advocate as well. Do you have an attorney? If not, get one.
2006-12-05 01:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would get a solicitor asap. I would also think that if they have stopped your dad seeing your kids they would also have to tell you why?
2006-12-05 06:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fight back..they always want to be your friend. i had loads of probs because of my son and his kids. get a good solicitor, they will fight your case for you..i hate social workers they judge first and ask questions later...good luck.
2006-12-05 01:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by grumpcookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to get a lawyer involved at this point.
2006-12-05 01:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by whathappenedamber 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋