neither one of us have a problem with our respective choices but if we have kids, what do we do? i wouldn't feel the need for them to attend a catholic church, just as he probably wouldn't feel the need to have them perform any rituals with me. how do we find a balance?
2006-12-05 01:00:36 · 25 answers · asked by Kismet 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
puppy-i don't have a specific path, i incorporate various beliefs. however i do follow some celtic traditions which would tie in well with him.
2006-12-05 01:09:38 · update #1
the wedding singer-that's an incredibly horrible thing to say and i hope karma backhands you for it. your god is supposed to be about love right? then why punish someone for loving whom they love. you disgust me.
2006-12-05 01:15:43 · update #2
The Catholic Church condemns witchcraft. I suppose your husband married a witch, meaning that he's not much for following the rules of his religion. IMHO, that's a GOOD thing!
Here's what I suggest:
Celebrate the holidays the way you always do, avoid church, baptize the kid Catholic, and don't worry about it. Your kids will someday come to their own conclusions.
Besides, Halloween is more fun with Cakes and Ale, and Christmas is more fun than any solstice ritual I've attended.
2006-12-05 01:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by B SIDE 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is very tough. I am soon to experience this conundrum; I am Mormon and my wife is agnostic.
Although my wife does not agree with my beliefs, and I obviously don't understand how she can believe the way she does, I have told her we each need to continue to live according to what we believe. It will be our actions that teach our children. We should continue to be passionate about what we believe and how we act. When the moments arise, we should share with our children what we believe without being negative about our spouses beliefs. As others have stated, at some point they will desire to learn more and we can teach them, but then it will be thier decision whether or not they would like to follow in their father's footsteps, thier mother's, or maybe choose a path of thier own. Respect will be the most important thing to exist in the relationship and home, but it will be an extra hurdle. Good luck.
2006-12-05 03:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a question best left to you and your significant other, not total strangers. You should discuss it and reach some sort of compromise before you have children so there is no friction when you do. I would say you should probably teach them about both and expose them to both and let them choose. Pagans have some of the same basic principals such as treat everyone with respect and harm none. But as I said, it will be up to you to reach the compromise.
2006-12-05 01:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Whatever they want to learn.
If he goes to church on Sunday, he can take the kids- if they want to go.
When you go to ritual, you can take the kids, if they want to go.
Kids should have a very broad learning. They should learn not only your beliefs, as many beliefs as they can possibly be exposed to so they can make their own decisions.
2006-12-08 02:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by kaplah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am Christian and my husband is an atheist, raising kids in a mixed religion atmosphere is a nightmare. I feel bad for anyone who is in this situation. You and your husband need to get together and figure out where your two religions meet, and train your child up in those areas. And both of you need to learn the apologetics (reasons for your faith) really well and figure out who is right and who is wrong since Jesus can't be both God and not God at the same time both of you can't be right.
2006-12-05 01:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Maxine 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Before you marry, he will be required to make a solemn promise to baptize the children Catholic, and to do everything possible to raise them in the Holy Catholic Faith. Will you support him in keeping this promise? Or does he have no intention of keeping it, in which case would you want to be joined to someone so fundamentally dishonest and deceptive?
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2006-12-05 01:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
suggest you talk and discuss the situation then come to a mutual decision as to what is best for the children. if both of you do what you feel in your hearts is the right thing to do then your decision is the correct one. have faith and confidence whatever you decide will be the correct choice
2006-12-05 01:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you expose them to both religions. Religion is a form of choice not true. Give them the freedom to choose. I am Christian and my fiance is pagan. The question came up a few times an we thought that would be the best decision.
2006-12-05 01:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
As a couple, you should teach your children about religious tolerance and as many different relgions as possible. Perhaps consider taking them to a UU church or something. Let them chose their own relgion when they are ready, don't force them into either yours or your husbands
2006-12-05 06:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Teach them both and expose them to other beliefs. It is not neccessary to start teaching them right away, they will tell you when they are ready to learn about spirituality by asking questions as they grow. That's how you will know when they are ready.
2006-12-05 01:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lone 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋