-Met a woman 11 years older than me at work
-She is divorced, 3 kids, bipolar
-She told me about a guy she was having sex with who was living with his girlfriend
-We had a FWB relationship to start with
-She text me all the time, we went out for lunches, met the kids, she slept over
-Got a new job wanted to stay in contact with her
-She slept with a guy she had met in a nightclub and text me to say he hadn't spoken to her since but didn't tell the unavailable guy
-I had a bit of a go at her and said she should not give it away so easily
-She slept with him a week later and told me about it after I found messages, she described in detail but at the same time she was going on dating agencies
-Got worried about above behaviour and mentioned it to my boss at work
-She had a go at me and said horrible things
-I told unavailable man what she was doing
-She cut off contact spread rumours at work about me
-I have since apologised but no further contact
A**hole or jusitified?
2006-12-05 00:56:19 · 18 answers · asked by jdfsldfj j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u asked this before and im still gone say what i said before you had no business trying to et into her business
2006-12-05 00:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has issues and had put some trust in you and confided her indiscretions. This did not give you the right to tell anyone. That was a very immature thing to do. Just because someone shares the details of their life with you, no matter how distasteful you find them. You do not have the right to share the information with anyone. Hopefully, you will learn from this mistake. I think you violated her trust and she is rightfully upset, angry and probably hurt. God bless****
2006-12-05 01:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely an A**hole. One way or another,you shouldn't have disclose her "unique" lifestyle at work. She hasn't done you any wrong in the first place,unless you forgot to mention...or you were simply jealous about her sleeping around and got revengeful (which you had no rights to).
Whatever it is,you were and still are not ready for such open-relationship and I strongly advise you steer away from such "friendship" in the future.
You are just gonna end up getting hurt or hurtful to the other party.
2006-12-05 01:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go so far as to call you an a--hole, but you could have handled it better. Ratting her out to your boss was a bad idea - in general, you shouldn't squeal on your coworkers to your boss unless they are doing something really really really bad. And it seems like you must have wanted her, and been jealous because she was sleeping with other guys and telling you all about it (which was really uncool of her to do - that was an a--hole move on her part). So it was messed up all around.
2006-12-05 01:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u're not an @ $ $ although it wouldve done a lot of good if you stayed out of it. she's the one who has a problem but then it's her life and perhaps you couldve had a go with her because you were concerned but mentioning it to another party crossed the line a little... i wouldnt say you're an @ $ $, u made a mistake, lots of ppl make that mistake....i hope things work out for u though...
2006-12-05 01:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by ishida25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...whattan a**hole you had no business telling her boss whats he got to do with it you should of had a quiet word with her telling her how concerned you were about her she wasnt doing anything wrong as far as i can see and it certainly wasnt worth her getting a reputation over you owe her one HUUUUGE bouquet of flowers and a MASSIVE explaination take it from a woman you've comitted the ultimate sin a male friend could do as when things are told by a man they are percieved as more true than if a woman was telling it if ya follow me good luck getting her back!!!
2006-12-05 01:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by LISA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately.........you're an a**hole!
You had no right prying into her personal life......especially as your arrangement was merely that of FWB and not exclusive.
You over-stepped (leapt across) the mark there dude.
2006-12-05 01:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betrayed her confidence in you. She must have felt comfortable telling you things and trusted you not to repeat it. What she was doing was very dangerous, but you needed to be there for her. I wouldn't call you an asshole, but certainly not justified.
2006-12-05 01:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
an A S S H O L E that was her personal business you had no right
2006-12-05 02:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the a**hole part, but she sounds like a complete wh*re. Or maybe she's just getting her freak on? Jeesh...
2006-12-05 00:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by DoubleD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋