Why do people need the Internet to find their sole mate?

Question

What happened to the old style of meeting the opposite sex, such as chance meetings, pubs, clubs etc?

Message to Dave S: It's picky people like you that put me off Internet dating :-p Before typing stupid answers you should check your own ability to use English! There is an apostrophe between the n & t in don't. "People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones"

Answer 1

I prefer the old fashioned way too and couldn't imagine meeting someone on the net. I met the love of my life in my local town on a night out and have believed in fate ever since as he still makes me just as happy now. I think it is because some people feel they can be more open and honest when they are just typing on the net and can be more daring if they are a bit insecure and wouldn't normally have the confidence to go up and talk to someone in a bar. Also they don't get distracted by the way a person looks as they get to know the personality first.

Answer 2

Once upon a time,I felt that online dating sites were 'tacky'. No way-no how-uh uh!!! But one day,at the computer and bored (and having just split up with a total jerk!),I typed the word 'dating' into the search bar. Up came these sites,I clicked on the first one-thought 'What the hell?' and registered. But when they asked for payment,I thought,'Sod off!!!' But I did eye up some profiles-and there was one that looked cute and laid back. His write up made me laugh out loud-so I sent a 'flirt'. (Which was free.) Next thing I know,he's sent me a message-and I can't read it because I'm not a paid member! So I paid a fiver for a 3 day trial to read his message-and contacted him back. That was over 2 years ago-and we're still together. I've never been happier-never felt more loved and secure! All because I thought 'What the hell?'

Answer 3

Do you know what the divorce rate is in this country (USA)? The "old fashioned" way of doing things doesn't work so well, does it? You can still meet your soul mate by accident, but the internet makes it possible to screen for people that have similar interests and offers the opportunity to meet people that you might not meet otherwise.

Answer 4

I met my fella on the internet 7yrs ago and we have our own home and 2 beautiful children. I didnt go on the internet looking for a bf we were both in a chat room chatting to no-one just sat there, so i asked if he wanted to chat. We chatted for 2 months before we spoke on the phone, 3 months before we met then we moved into our home 10 months later. Pubs and clubs are ok for meeting people BUT if its your local its full of the same people and you probably never wanted a relationship with them!

Answer 5

Better selection, better screening and I don't wind up making it complicated by sleeping with them an hour after I met them. If you want a casual shag, the pub is great; if you want to meet someone a bit special it IS a numbers game. I'd say 99% of people on this planet are freaks. If you're going to spend time at the pub sifting out the needy girls, the self haters, the under-achievers, the bullied, jaded, broken and deranged you're going to need to give up your day job and buy yourself a dialysis machine. There's an awful lot of women out there who have extremely messed up attitudes to men. You think I want to risk all I've achieved by getting someone average pregnant? Likewise for the discerning woman, you think she wants the average freaky guy, with their never-ending need for unconditional mummy-love? No. Way.

Answer 6

I didnt need to find my soulmate on the internet,,,,it just happened talking in a chat room. We talked on webcam for a month,,,met eachother and then decided we couldnt be without eachother so he moved 4 hours from his family to live with me. We been happily living together for 2 yrs. So all im saying is i wasnt looking and neither was he,,it just happened and im so glad it did. And besides who wants to meet the same people in your town over and over again. Its nice to meet all kinds of people all over the world. I actually know alot of people who have met because of the net.

Answer 7

I found my soul mate on the net,its just not safe for a woman these days to go on the pull, an I'm not saying your completely safe on the net,but i spoke to my now husband for ages before meeting him,an he came to me,and 9 years down the line we're still very happy.

Answer 8

I think their are various reasons for many different individuals. Personally, I would not could not ever think of Internet dating. I find it very impersonal and somewhat frightening. However, I think perhaps the lack of time, insecurities. They may not feel very good about themselves and they live a lie behind the screen and present themselves as whom they would like to be. And then surprise, you have met the person they have portrayed. So they may feel by then the person is in love and loves them for who they are or say they are. Just my thoughts, God bless****

Answer 9

Because they are hopeless.That is why they keep meeting wrong people on the net.Some also believe they are searching the whole world for the most beautiful woman to marry forgeting she is already full of men around her.A correct person will not look for a mate on the net bcos lots are just by.Its only a faulty person who longs for a distant person cuz they wont know each other"s secrets.

Answer 10

It is Soul Mate, not Sole Mate. The Soul/Spirit is part of the ether and the internet leaves information in the ether for you to pick up, makes sense to me. So your soul mate is sent to you from his/her soul in the ether.

However we don't need the internet to find and Soul Mate it is just chosen that way by some people and not by others.