He is a nice guy he even lets me hang out with my guy friends w/ out getting mad thats nice. I think he is a good guy but is hard to deal w/ because he has been single to long & only ever been in one long relationship. He is a loner but we have a great time in the bed room. I want to know if I should keep him or let him go because I'm ready to settel down. He is too but his actions say no. Oh & his family & nices take up most of his free time when he is not at work. I don't like that because I have kids that he needs to build a bond w/ or there is no point in this relationship my kids come first.
2006-12-05 00:27:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your kids really come first then you need to run away from this guy fast. Do you really want him to be a roll model for your children? Just because you like him and he is fun does not mean you will like living with him or he should be around your children.
2006-12-05 00:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do whats right for your kids, if he wont stop and wont act accordingly around the kids then i would reconsider
there are good guys out there,
also i have never been in a real relationship and dont have kids or anything else, most good guys havent/dont,
they are out there,
more than you think, they are quiet, they dont advertise, just ask me
but lifes not just only about finding a person to be with, life is a challenge, a road, i personally dont use resources and time to find a person to be with, nor to many other guys, friends, etc,
just not a priority
but if it happens some day then great, if not, then thats fine too
good luck
2006-12-05 08:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by mr wabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have a couple of problems here.
On the one hand, he's nice, he doesn't get jealous of your male friends and he and you have a great sex life.
On the other hand, he smokes a lot of marijuana, he's a "dork", his family and nieces are more important to him than you and your kids and he's constantly busy with his job and his relatives.
Balance those out - does the good side of this guy outweigh the bad?
If so, keep him.
If not, dump him.
That's the best I can tell you.
2006-12-05 08:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well DUH...this one is a "no brainer". He is living his life as HE chooses not as YOU would choose for him. Just because YOU have kids doesn't mean HE needs to build a bond with them. He is free and single and you are expecting him to WANT to settle down just because YOU have entered his dating picture. Get over yourself. Obviously you're very immature since what it seems you are basing your relationships on is having a great time in the bedroom...f u c k i n g doesn't make a bondable relationship with children, by your own statements you prove that your children don't come first.
2006-12-05 08:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids and pot should not be together. I dated a guy once who was a big dope head and he brought be down. I didn't work or had any time for anyone else. He made me a big pot head and a big alcoholic because he drank. I say, don't do it mainly because of your kids (they really dont' need to be around that or smell it). But it's really your decision!
2006-12-05 08:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by vastilwell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he smokes pot you dont want him. You dont want to get involved with that kind of people. My ex didnt smoke but he was the type that would have. However, I ended up getting abused in the relationship. Those type arent good for anything but to hurt you.
2006-12-05 08:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm one of those lucky men who doesn't make decisions below the belt. I've seen it work for countless others too.
2006-12-05 08:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh hello he smokes pot!!! get over him find someone decent!!!
2006-12-05 08:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the pot home grown good stuff? Or not ? I like the good stuff .
2006-12-05 08:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gee, you say his actions tell you one thing, and have you yet asked him to marry you? wow! are you blonde?
2006-12-05 08:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋