i met up with this guy i liked for 6 years a few months ago and we saw each other for 2 months and texted all the time he told me he was just out of a long term relationship and didn't want to get into another i feel his relationship ended badly. i told him i couldn't be with him as i feel i am going to end up hurt as i felt he had enough to contend without me adding to his problems as i want a relationsip with him i am mad about him. i pulled away to give him time as i didn't want to be his rebound or his fun while getting over his pass relationship he said his had enough of relationships, he went out with a girl for 8 years in the pass it also ended and i know he took this bad as thats when i first met him it always seems like the wrong timing, does it take time to get over a long relationship. am i doing the right thing i am mad about him should i text now and again or just leave him. please help
2006-12-05 00:02:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is said that it takes one month of time to recover for every year that you were with someone. Sometimes I think it takes longer. Brave girl for giving him space. it will pay you in the end. You've waited a long time, wait some more, let him know you're there if he needs a friend, that might be the most important thing for him at the moment. Spend some time on you! You're not in hurry. Good luck
2006-12-05 00:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me 3 years to get over my 3-year relationship with an ex. Does that answer your question??? It depends on the person but at the end of the day, it does take time to get over a long term relationship that didn't work out. You gotta remember alot of time, effort, energy and money was invested into that past relationship. What you did was noble. Let him be. Give him the space and time to heal. He will come to you when he is ready. Otherwise you would need to move on no matter how you feel about him. Don't put your life on hold and let it pass you by. It's a waste!!!
2006-12-05 00:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife of 23 years left me for someone else I was devastated. Put defensive walls up and crawled into my shell. The last thing I wanted was to be pestered by another female. I found it impossible to trust again. Yet a few months later, as the emotional wounds started to heal I met a woman. We started texting and kept things on a friendly level. She had a similar background. A few weeks later we started dating and took things slowly. I began to trust again as she is totally honest with me, and i am with her. We are now soulmates and are now very happily married.
Text this man by all means but don't put him under any pressure. Be a friend to him. A shoulder to cry on. If it's meant to be then it will happen. If not then you will have to move on but at least you gave it a shot. And you can always be friends
2006-12-05 00:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your predicament babe. I felt this way about a guy once and it lasted for 15 years. I was crazy about him before i even realised what love meant.
Then i was married to another man through arrange marriage and was quite happy as I married someone i loved dearly. And time went on and on and I never even thought about that other guy as I was living my own life and realised it was just an infactuation i had on the first guy....not love.
Since then I have divorced, had several relationships and remarried and now am living with the best thing that ever happened to me..... who is to say that me and that guy would have made it work anyway?
The grass is always greener on the other side and its human instinct to want what we cant have or want what is hard to get.
I would try to focus your life on someone else.....live for you and remember you are worth alot. Try to put him behind you....and look forward to being scooped off your feet by a man that truly loves YOU.
You will be glad of this advice when you have found the RIGHT MAN!
If you try to hook up with the man in question....you will be forever trying to please him and failing. He is not interested in you.....spend your life trying to find someone who is....that will make you feel very special babe.
xx
2006-12-05 00:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off and contact him every now and then just to let him know your still around, but be very general with the call,"how are you?" just calling to say hi" . That way every time you start to leave his mind, he hears from you and there you are again. The reason I say that is because men always say that and then in a month when they get horny, you see them or hear about them with some chick they just met, while you was "leaving him alone"
Good luck
2006-12-05 00:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by METOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him be and find someone for you, that wants to be with you. He is just out of a long thing? He probably just wants to be alone for a while and maybe in a few months he wants to be with you, but that's not good.
There is someone out there for you, but I don't think its this guy.
I hope you the best of luck......
2006-12-05 00:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a habit of contacting you if you leave them alone. If he doesnt then he's not interested and theres not much you can do except move on. Having said that - I know how hard it is not to text them. Good luck!
2006-12-05 00:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past dear girl, sorry but other than correcting your grammar I can't help sorry
2006-12-05 00:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋