If you go out with someone you must surely love that person..... So the act of breaking up means that they never really loved you....
So why do they then want to be friends....?
2006-12-04 23:25:54 · 20 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I broke up with her....
2006-12-04 23:30:59 · update #1
You're really OVERstating the idea of "going out" with someone.
A date is just a meet-and-greet between 2 people, to explore the possibilities of a further relationship.
If that doesn't pan out for any reason, then the line is drawn, and the statement is made, (let's not go further), we'll stay as friends.
But 1/2 the time that's a code phrase for 'go away', we're done.
2006-12-04 23:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because a romantic relationship doesn't work between the two of you, doesn't mean that the other person doesn't love you. In fact, if they truly love you, they would not continue with a relationship that does not make them happy (which usually means they can't really make you happy either), but they might really value the friendship between you, in which case they'll want to stay friends.
If more couples would try to be friends for long enough before getting into a romantic relationship, maybe this wouldn't be such a big problem. Most of them would find out that a relationship won't work and will stay friends, the others will be able to say 'hey, the foundation of our relationship is friendship and that works, but we don't have the same plans for the house we want to build, so let's rather just be friends'.
2006-12-05 07:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by adeleb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes at first you truly do love that person .and lets say you get married and have a few kids and one of you drift off and find some one else. you may still love your spouse but that other person just made you crazy. if you part friends you'll stay friends forever because my ex and are stayed friends for our children and made the kids much more happier . and when I found some one else to be in my life he also was a divorced with children so we made it work at any thing that we had birthdays ,Christmas, thanksgiving, etc. we invited our ex's we do this so our kids will not have to run all over and we can all be like one big happy family you put into life what you want out of it .
2006-12-05 07:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you where friends before you started the deep relationship, Then you wouldn't have to ask this question. Sweetheart your relationship would last a little bit longer if you work on being friends first. The only reason Exes want to be friends is because they really don't hate you, But their is something about you that he just can't stand, So in order not to go through the same thing with you again. They would ask you to just be friends.
2006-12-05 09:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say we should stay friends to lesser the pain of a break up they probably don't want to be friends but when they see there ex partner hurt or down they think it might help.
I think you can only become friends with an ex once you have got over them and moved on in life, not straight away when people are hurt etc.
2006-12-05 07:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you broke with her you hurt her.....so how can you say she did not love you. Maybe she wants to salvage something of what she believed she shared and the realisation that you are no more than a player is very painful. A player is incabable o identifying with anyone elses feelings but their own. Reading your questions seems like you might be on target.
2006-12-05 07:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by evergreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel the same today as you did yesterday? Will you feel the same tomorrow as you do today? Feelings change and maybe they did love you at the time. Being friends is a way of clinging on to what you had, because they obviously still care for you and don't want to lose you all together.
2006-12-05 07:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes two people work better as friends. its either that or the person doing the breaking up offers to be friends out of pity and give false hope that they might get back together in order to make the break up moment easier on him/her.
2006-12-05 07:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because sometimes its easier to keep some emotional attachment to the person you thought you loved, rather than having them cut out of your life forever.
It takes a bigger man to keep an ex by his side as a friend rather then simply hate her.
Hope this helps and that you find the right decision, which is best for you.
2006-12-05 07:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see dating as an exploratory period. If I love them then I'm ready to commit for life. Love is something that you don't give up. It may be taken away from someone who does love you back but if you're both in love then you'll work and fight to save it.
2006-12-05 07:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋