I'm so hurt by my ex. He was so horrible to me. And ever since I been very rebellious and very anti-male I feel like I alomst hate men in a way. I've been doing a lot of bad girl activity like having sex with strangers, getting into fights, and doing drugs. I used to be a sweet and good girl.
2006-12-04 23:19:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to rise above how he wronged you. Let go, forgive, and move on. Perhaps you should look into getting some counselling because it seems like you have a few things to work through.
Especially if this man was abusive to you and the last thing you want to do is get involved with someone especially since there is a lot hurt there. The best thing to do is refrain from dating until you have gotten your life together and you are healed from this mess.
If you continue on this way you will be unhappy and also it will cause any good future relationship you may have with other men to grow sour because you will always have that person in the back of your mind until you learn to forgive and move on.
If you ever feel the need to reach out here's a place you can start if you feel open enough to do so? I will pray for you as well. Take care. https://www.crossroads.ca/prayerreq.shtml
2006-12-04 23:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you got hurt by this guy and you're still letting him hurt you. Do you think you are getting even by messing yourself up? You're not being anti-male you're being anti-YOU. I'm sure this really isn't you. By now you must realize this isn't working for you. Something you need to get out of your system? Hopefully the sooner the better as this behavior is very risky. May even get you killed. Why don't you turn the good in you back on? You still can. Put this energy to some good use. Use it on behalf of other abused women. Help them to avoid the hell you went through.
Consider that you will have kids of your own some day. What better reason is there to turn it around? A new generation to learn from you. A chance to break the cycle of violence.
Yeah I know I'm a guy telling you this. But I'm just hoping.
2006-12-05 08:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't take this the wrong way but wtf......he's a guy.. granted some are DUMBASSED.....but you can't let him control you. You were GOOD what changed then, you lost a guy (okay!). I can understand you being hurt, but throwing your life away because of that...look you have to realise that there are worse things in this world...if you can't deal with guys, how will you handle what life has in store for you....prioritize your things...men are important, but not worth you throwing away a good thing..you do drugs now, how does that help you (in what way!!)..he's out there (God knows doing what) but i don't think pinning away, fighting, taking drugs and getting into trouble.......Take a break, come clean, reorganize your life or you'll lose it...it's too short to mess up........some kids are dying out there from poverty and your'e purposely destroying your life, pssshhhh.......look at things from the right angle hon.....but get your act together and soon.....
2006-12-05 07:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by meekmami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u can go back good,
I am only 17 and i am sorta in the same predicament, My b/f treats me like s*** but i have pushed it to the side i have even let him take control of my life, It was hard to start off with, But i am starting to learn that you have to do some bad to realise that you can go back to the you were, It has been 12 months since i got outta a relationship where my b/f used to belt the heck outta me it took me alot of pain and crying and my family member explained to me how hard things were for them and they made me realise alot of things are hard to get over but you cannot stay mad for those things forever,
2006-12-05 07:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by trixiepinx89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah course you can, thats just your way of geting over it.
why dont you keep the good friends you have and get some new ones that arent into that scene? that will help you change the way you are.
get a new hobby away from pubs and drugs, youll be ok, ive been through it, it gets easier and you will be come 'good' again. just dont push away all those that do care abuot you.
x
2006-12-05 07:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are blaming the wrong person for your behavior.
Only you are resonsible for your behavior, regardless of how or who hurt you.
You can stop being irresponsible, and mischevious anytime you choose. The longer you continue the behavior, the more you will have to live down, or regret later.
2006-12-05 07:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can.Your battle is half won already because you realize the root of the problem!I know what you mean cause i've been there but it wasnt as extreme as your experience.Anything is possible though sweetie!Good luck.Its entirely up to you!
2006-12-05 07:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can turn back to good girl.
Tell me something, why dis you turn so bad?? Just because of that guy who dumped you?? That's very bad. He's enjoing his life, making his life beautiful and you, huh, you're ruining your life?? Just because that boy dumped you?? Shame, it's a shame. I think you should give up all these and turn back to a good girl. Then you'll get a good guy who will love you!!
2006-12-05 07:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you got hurt.
You don't need to hurt other people because of that.
You need to find people that you can help, and help them.
That is the healing process.
If you help those who need it, you will feel better about yourself.
Help your friends, volunteer at a mission, feel good about yourself!
2006-12-05 07:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to remember that u are in control of ur life...dont let what one person did to u change ur character and ur common sense cause u know what ur doing isnt right and probably isnt u. damn we need to talk! cause i know EXACTLY what u goin thru...
2006-12-05 07:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋