My kitten has been increasingly colder towards me.?

Question

Up until 3 weeks after her adoption, my little tortoiseshell kitten was extremely playful, affectionate, and pleasant. A few weeks ago, I noticed a somewhat drastic change in her behavior; she remained active but played less around and with me and more independently, away from me, she now crouches in what almost seems like fear OR scampers off every time I approach, and she never, ever sleeps next to me anymore (she used to even sleep right against my neck) and instead curls up next to my roommate Blake, who makes no real attempt at taking care of her. It's as if she's becoming more drawn to less affection - why on earth would she avoid the one who's shown her love since the day I adopted her? To me, it almost seems as though I've hurt her in some way, which I never have, neither physically nor emotionally. What do you think is happening, and how can I get back the kitten I brought home?

Answer 1

I have known cats to become colder after they were fixed, but never like this! She may need you to show her some affection. If she rejects attempts to be held or cuddled, give her her space. You may find that she's just being fickle, and she comes back around. You can also try cat treats, which always turn my cat into a love.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear that but unfortunately, some cats behave like this. I've owned several cats in the past and each one had a unique personality. You shouldn't take it personally though, just give her the space she needs. If she wants attention, she will come to you. I've learned from experience that cats tend to be very independent unlike dogs.

However, if you feel you want to do something about this, here are some tips. First of all, try to be more playful. Buy a furry toy mouse or any other cat toy and try to lure her to you with it. I used to have this little rod with a string attached to it and at the end of the string, was a small furry mouse. Usually, I would hold the rod and move it over the floor so it looked like it was as if a real mouse was crawling about. Once my cat saw it, he instantly went into action and started pouncing and jumping on it. If that doesn't work, hold out a small treat in your hand and call her name. Make sure she sees it and I'm sure she'll be tempted to try. Cats usually love tuna but you can also give those treats sold at pet shops.

Don't worry too much though. Just give it some time and she'll eventually warm up to you.. or not.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear this man. I have many cats and have bred cats on and off for the past three years. I have many types and they all have their own personality. Some were to be other family member's cats, but they all seemed to be drawn to me. I'm around more then the rest of them and I play with them all the time and show affection. The difference is, some have even drawn away from me for no apparent reasons.

The older they get (from kittens to preteen status), they develop an interest in who they deem to be leader of sorts. If there was some sort of abuse, I can see why the reactions, but since you say there is none, there may be something else happening.

When you have a chance, talk to a vet about the kitten's behaviour, they are better trained for this and can direct you to find material to read.

There may even be a mental reason for this behaviour (trying not to scare you, but... ). Just talk to a vet. They are your friend once you get to talking to them and they will help you out, all in the best interest of the kitten. I'm well known at my vets office, I even get discounts on any bill I get for the animals.

Good Luck with your kitten.

Answer 4

We recently got a kitten (she's three months old and has been with us for about a week and a half). For the first week, she was affectionate and playful, and really lovable. Then after that, she started being "defiant" and doing things that she KNOWS she's not allowed to (her expression when she's caught states quite clearly that she knows that, as does her sneaking around and checking if someone's watching before she does it).

It might be the same thing with your kitten as with ours. At first, it wasn't her home, and she was cautious in another's territory, but now she feels more comfortable, and has (it seems) decided that it's her home too, and that means she first of all tests boundaries, and secondly might not feel as much of a need to have someone to reassure her that everything's okay.

Some cats are less affectionate than others, and that she seeks your roommate's company instead of yours could be a sign that she appreciates his (am guessing) more distant way of being with her. Our kitten tends to prefer sleeping in my lap before that of my flatmate (whose cat it is), mostly (or so we think) because she knows that when I sit down in front of the computer I'll sit there for a couple of hours without moving, and without really paying her any attention (other than when I have to go somewhere, in which case I lift her over onto my chair temporarily, before taking her back into my lap when I get back).

It does seem a bit concerning that she seems afraid of you. How do you sleep? Maybe you accidentally scared her at some point while you were sleeping? If she enjoyed sleeping close to you, you could have managed to hurt her (although with most cats, you'd usually be notified of that immediately ^^; ).

My advice is to not crowd her; allow her the time she needs to "breathe". If she chooses to go rest in your lap, for example while you're watching tv or something, don't pet her so much, just allow her some quiet time to realize that you're not going to "attack" her as soon as she gets there. If she rests in your roommate's lap close to you, don't try to pet her, but let her see that you can be close to her without reaching for her.

I'm not sure if any of that will help, but it's possible. I do hope it'll work out for you. <3

Answer 5

Doesn't it just make you so sad when you had this loving little thing and now it wants nothing to do with you? Same thing with me! I even helped deliver my two cats. The one I loved on (actually took him from Mama except when feeding) hates my guts! So you what I started to do? I would pick him up and hold him forcefully with soft loving words, lots of kisses until he would "Meow" like let me go and I would immediately. Eventually, he has started to come around very slowly and I wake with him on my head now almost every day. Try being a little more aggressive but letting go when she wants and see if it helps. I , also , read that around the age of 9 or 10 monthes they become extremely independent. Could be that as well. Heck, who knows but isn't it interesting finding out about them. Good luck!! Hope she starts to become a real lover to you P.S. Does she sleep with you?

Answer 6

Cats can be "sometimey" but what concerns me if the fact that she crouches from you. Continue to offer playtime and a soft furry mat on your bed in case she wants to sleep there. If she doesn't look like she's in pain and is eating good -- just continue your cuddle time when allowed and hopefully eventually she will come around. Maybe she was abushed prior to your adoption. Catnip grass always makes them happy and ensure she has sometime high to climb up on like a cat stratch post and a window to lounge in the sun while you're at work.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Cats are liek this. They need their space. Be good to her and be cuddly when she is in that mood, not when she wants to be left alone. The most wonderful thing about cats is exactly that, because when they come to you they make it special, it's not like dogs who want you all the time. You'll se how happy you are when she comes and cuddles up next to you. Get her on our bed again at night though, unless you move too much when you sleep? My cat comes to my side and not my husband's, because he moves and kicks in his sleep.

Answer 9

She's a big girl now she needs her space, just be real calm around her.

Answer 10

Get a pet rock. It'll have more prersonality.