I am 23 and an ad professional, who is looking for a break outside my home state. I am business graduate and network a lot. One of my contacts happens to be a young guy, who was a guest lecturer. In his class, my best friend and me often sat together and he used to often look at her and say " I lucky to have such pretty faces in my class".
I kept in touch with him for professional purposes even after graduation. Now this guy is flirting with me fulltime. The issue is he's 30+, married and has a kid. And im not used to this kind of attention. Is something wrong with him? How do i ask him to back off with out being rude?
2006-12-04 22:40:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did remind him of him wife an kid. It simply dint bother him. He says he can take are of both i.e. his wife an his flirting with me.
2006-12-04 22:50:48 · update #1
In fact he is really trying to land me a better job. i have got many offers thanks to him. it is his recent interest in me, which im not comfortable with. I mean, i was always a good frnd, but now i dunno wats got on to him.
2006-12-04 23:01:29 · update #2
I tried some of the options you all suggested. Threatening him that i'd tell his wife and telling him tat im not single(he knows its a white lie) doesnt seem to work.
I spoke about this to my very close frnd(also a guy, who works with me). He's been in this field for 5-8 yrs now and says this sort of things are usual. Girls getting laid to go up the corporate ladder is cliche according to him.. He's asked me to pretend enjoying the attention till I get wat i want, then put this guy in his place.
What do i do?
2006-12-07 16:50:53 · update #3
Dear Oh Dear,
A sensible and intillegent person like you - How in the world do u land up in a situation like this ? All what u are doing is wrong. If I were you I would not even want to be with!?
Yes there is something wrong with him and the first thing is he is a cheat and a liar. You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom", men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom". A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued!!
My Advice: Back Off and and tell him to stop this play as he is a MARRIED MAN. If this dosent work then you may have to use harsher words like I dont trust a person who cheats or words to that effect or a threat that his wife may like to know about it.
A word of caution, however, you have to ensure that it is not fliriting and maybe just that he is being nice. But if you are uncomfortable and have the intution then do make your intentions clear to him.
Good Luck>r
2006-12-05 00:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to nip this in the bud right away. Networking or not, his flirting with you will be held over your head for some time if he does actually help you get a job out of your state. If he is married and flirting with you that tells you what kind of guy he really is. You can tell him that you are uncomfortable with his flirting and would prefer that your relationship with him be kept on a professional level. That is the best way to do it, be honest and up front. No point in trying to hurt him or encourage him just be honest. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-04 22:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His main intention I'm sure is to befriend you to such a level where he can get ya in the sack.
Just tell him you're not into married men. You are single, a professional and have a GREAT life ahead of ya.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-04 22:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by zucco_69m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm, I'd have to ask what he's doing specifically that is making you uncomfortable - if it's words, flirting and teasing, then I'd suggest you wait until the next time he makes a comment like that and simply ask him, "Does your wife know you talk to people this way?" That should do the trick. Good luck.
2006-12-04 22:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by michymlj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30+ and married? The problem is this guy is looking for a cheap tawdry affair, I think its best to leave him alone. If he's hitting on you, you can't be rude enough when telling him to back off. Dump him as a contact
2006-12-04 22:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the one being rude! first and for most because he would insult you as a women to flirt with you while he is married, second that your only connection with him is professional. i would not care at this point if i were rude with him.i would come out and tell him that your only interest with him is on a professional level and that you don't appreciate him insulting you as a women thinking that you would have any thing to do with a married man.
2006-12-04 22:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot do anything to change him, but you can, should, must, will put distance between him and you.
Tell him you are have boy friend or parents have already promise you to some one (a suitable white lie).
In case if you are trying to have the cake and eat it too then!
2006-12-05 00:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with him, He is being a usual ***** man, its not time to know if he is wrong, its time for you to be right and its your mistake that you let me talk such nonsense with you. You must learn to draw lines and be a no nonsense girl. All the best for your future.
2006-12-04 23:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by myself_keeru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you feel sorry for his wife for marrying a jackass like him and he needs to back off, this is not a game to you and you have better things to do with your time than waste it on someone like him.
2006-12-04 22:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, tell him you have a boyfriend that is in the Oil business and will stomp a mudhole in his A s s .. if he doesnt back off....
then call me... hehehe
Merry Christmas.... hohoho
2006-12-04 22:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋