i was sitting on the couch, holding my ex-bf in my arms, as in a hug. he has a gf, but i didn't feel it was wrong, bc we've been having this sort of rel.(hugging, holding hand, and calling eachother names lovers do) ever since we broke up last year.there wasn't anything phisical in it all,only warmth and we both felt safe when together.
but that day he started softly kissing my fingertips and then we wanted to kiss me. i rejectind him at first, pretending i didn't understand and gave him a friendly kiss, but he insisted and i finally gave in. after kissing him, i started crying bc of the guilt. and this situation repeated itself for a few hours, kissing, crying and talking.. the thing is he started wanting more (like putting his hand under my blouse and touch me) but i rejected him by taking his hand and kissing it. i wasn't feeling confortable nor safe, only guilty.
the next day i sent him a mail, saying that we need to clear things out. he said we can't be friends, he wants more.
2006-12-04 22:29:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you are being used, and he is a jerk for cheating on his girlfriend.
If he says that he wants to do more than just friend things with you, and that he won't be friends without that extra thing, he's a super jerk! He doesn't value your friendship anyway.
I think you should call his girlfriend and let him know what kind of slimeball she's dating.
2006-12-04 22:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being used? Yes. If he loves you and wants to be with you, then you need to tell him he should break it off with his current girlfriend. What he is doing is cheating. He is using you for physical gratification but she is getting all his time and dating and stuff. That's not fair to you, and it is cheating on her. Your ex boyfriend needs to make a choice. I'm sorry that this hurts you. Things will get better in time. In the resources below, I posted a link to an article I wrote about cheating and relationships - about being the 'other woman'. If you get a chance to read it, maybe it will help you with your situation.
2006-12-05 06:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by michymlj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tara is right, it also seems to me like you're being used. I hope you and him have cleared the air about this by now. Also, if you haven't already talked to his girlfriend about him then I strongly recommend you do so.
2006-12-05 06:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants more. As long as you're stupit enough to play his game he's going to go for it. I just fell sorry for his girlfriend not you.
2006-12-05 08:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋