do i leave my job?

Question

hi, i am currently working as a support worker, i have been doing this for about 6 months i don't enjoy the wrk anymore but more than that i suffer from stress/depression and anxiety every now and then.. i have been off work for about 2 weeks, (some sickness some hols) and i really don't want to go back in as i feel that i am the outsider, like i don't fit in, i am definately going to leave this job but the real reason is probably because i have this issue with thinking that people just DON'T like me.....i get nervous at work and always think the worse...DO YOU THINK THAT I SHOULD GO ON THE SICK TO SORT MY HEAD OUT OR LEAVE OR JUST TRY AND COPE? I very much appreciate your answers/comment...thank you. p.s I have had this problem for years and i always end up leaving my job, i have had counselling in the past but it didn't really suit me..

Answer 1

if it IS possible, I think at this stage you should try the sick leave approach.
As a support worker (which you obviously applied for because you wanted to work in that area) you are no good to those you support, unless you are feeling good within your own self :(
Try not to leave this job, this seems to be a pattern for you. There is NO reason that you cant work in this field if you have a little confidence in yourself. I know you said that you have been to counselling before. My only suggestion is that you should try this again with an open mind.
I know this is hard to listen to when you are in a negative frame of mind but if you really want to succeed this time its worth a try.

If you visit your doctor and explain things to him, he should be able to set you up with a sick note (or whatever they do in the area you live) to give you some time to sort out your lack of self esteem (depression etc.)

Also in this time think about what YOU really want to do with your life, maybe you have been applying for jobs in an area that you don't want to, maybe not. That's the question you need to think about, as you take your next step.

GOOD LUCK!!!! and TRY to LOVE YOURSELF :)

Answer 2

I think that you should stick with it cause if you dont stop sometime it will never go away. It takes a while for people to seem to accept you takes longer if your an introvert type person because people dont want to bother you. I know this is going to sound silly but mabe try acting a little bit happier try making small talk with your co-workers and find things you have in common with them, work on that and you will find that feeling of anxiety will dissapear. I used to work with a woman I thought that hated me and I in turn refused to work with her(it was my supervisor) well one weekend we were scheduled together it took the whole weekend but what a turn around I thought that I was going to quit instead I gained a best friend go figure good luck and I hope this helps

Answer 3

Do you give the "you irritate me" vibes every time something goes wrong? if so, people would love to get on your nerves. I think majority of people show the maturity of teenagers in this regard. Don't give them an easy target; Also if you are the kind that is always polite, they find the whole "let's irritate her" aspect very amusing. Especially if you out-perform them or they feel they can't get back at you the usual way. Then they try to be their annoying best to get you out. It's a strategy to boost self-esteem in a strange negative way.

Don't expect them to learn. It's their nature and frankly they aren't the broad-minded ones anyway to change.

I think you should stick around in the job just to find out how far they would go to be annoying -- just for fun.

A woman I hadn't met for almost six months stroked my upper arm in a patronizing way (and it was even before she spoke to me!) when I was waiting for my food in the cafeteria. Then she did it again after five minutes. Almost got my goat. LOL

Just look at it as a test of your patience. You'll never have trouble raising children after being with this lot. ;)

Answer 4

Leave your rather negative personal agenda behind when you go to work, and interact with people purely in terms of doing the job well. Over time this will become a virtuous circle of doing better at work, thinking better of yourself, doing better at work, and so on. Then extend that concept to your personal life, interact with people in terms of roles and goals. In may feel odd until you get used to it, but eventually you will forget the old agenda, because it's irrelevant, and you will be thinking positively from habit.

Answer 5

counseling may help but anxiety disorders really need to be addressed with meds. So it sounds like you need the job so you can go buy your meds. But if you don't do one or the other then the other isn't really worth your effort. Over time, with counseling and experience, you may learn how to live without the need for the meds.

Answer 6

Unstability of mind is a very general habit & about 10 % peoples are sufferer with this habit.

I am also one of them,My GF, whom I love & support, is also one of us, you will find many people.

There is no cure for this?

If you know you can put a MOONGA STONE in a silver ring ( it is very cheap).wear on forth finger from thumbside.May this help you. as i am enjoying benefit.

Secondly the problem is because of you & your loose temper.

Let me asses your graph.

Firstly people will be thinking you to be very good & they would be optimistic about your result.

Secondly you might be failing to these & a chances of separation is suspected ( this is the toughest time you have to control)

Thirdly you & you employer will adjust with each other & both will be comfortable with thier result.

But your result & achievement will be average & will not be on peak.
U have to run your life with this only.

CONTROL YOURSELF BETWEEN
6TH MONTH TO 18 Month .

& be prepare, your result will be average,then only you can be happy.

Answer 7

You need help in keeping a job ..looks like you made a habit of leaving jobs ..you will do well if you speak to your work friends and your supervisor or even the boss..
get reassurance ..do this when ever you feel down..good luck

Answer 8

hello i too suffer from depression and anxiety but you cant keep running away have you tried some sort of medicine you might not get the right one to start with but you have got to keep trying maybe this job does not suit you so ask yourself if your not happy get something that makes you happy you must keep positive

Answer 9

You are addicted to feeling distressed because you thrive on the sense of drama you create. it makes you feel special and it gets you attention from the people who are left to nurse you back to 'health' after you fall in a heap. Don't pretend you hate feeling like this, because you love it!

Were you abandoned by your father as a child? Sounds like you abandon people before they get a chance to dump you.

You need psychiatric help because a destructive pattern is emerging. I'm not being nasty, I'm being direct.

***When I say you 'thrive' on drama I mean SUBCONCIOUSLY.
Your mind is protecting you from the possibility that you were responsible for feeling a 'failure' by apportioning blame on your desire to leave work on not 'fitting in' as opposed to "I'm not good enough". You were not to blame for any trauma you've gone through but you are responsible for how you react to your feelings NOW.......

Answer 10

I think the problem is with you and not your job. If you think people don't like you, that's going to be a problem wherever you work. Perhaps you could think about working from home or being your own boss.