i'm trying to break a bad habit, but trying not to is making me miserable?

Question

I'm a cutter, but I'm trying to stop now. I can go for a while without doing it. but lately i've been frustrated/sad/angry and i really want to.nobody understands, and I don't want to bring it up to anyone. i'm not sure how to talk about it, but i feel like i need to. does anyone else feel the same or been through the same thing?

and please, for the love of god, no rude comments. i'm not saying this for attention, so if you're offended, just don't leave an answer. thank you.

by "cutter" I mean, I cut myself to feel better. I know it's hard for a lot of people to understand.

Answer 1

Mae, I am nor sure what you mean when you say that you are a cutter. Try exercising when you feel this way or dance. I think you will be OK. If you can't get this under control yourself, talk to a psychiatrist. How long have you been like this? If you try real hard to do something else, I bet you can quit this habbit real good on your own. I believe this. Do something else in it's place. dance and music makes you feel good.

Answer 2

Mae, I do not understand what you mean by you are a cutter. Talking about quitting a habit, this is the general rule: It takes about 21 days of consistency to establish a habit, and it also takes 21 days of consistent abstinence to quit any habit. When quitting the habit, try to avoid any situations that might expose you to the influence. E.g. avoid staying around smoking/drinking friends if you want to quit smoking; walk away from a scene that angers you inf you have an anger problem, etc. This is a general rule. I wish I could understand what specifically you mean by "cutting." God bless.

Answer 3

Hi, I'm not a cutter, but what I would suggest is that you try to get Prof. Help for your problem. But until you get enough confidence to go for help keep talking about it and getting some input and support. If you keep looking for answers then this alone will help give you confidence to go get this medical help that you desperately need. By asking for help you have made the first step in your quest to over come this problem, so keep making each step and take it one day at a time. I know that you can make it, just keep putting one step in front of an other and don't look back..... Good luck in your journey!

Answer 4

I heard of this. and met someone who did that. They thought the same as you did. They followed rock bands looking for their God. They made a promise to themselves. When they had a child they would give up the concerts, and they did. but the child became their new idol of hope to save them,so they thought. instead , the child is a hostage to the whims of the parent and no one yet has been able to diagnose the truth as seen by the observer. The person was in deep spiritual agony, of shame and no sense of the true salvation in Jesus. God is at work in the person and circumstance of each day, in that, there is hope.

Answer 5

Are u serious ?
do u really need to break ?

Then do following

Keep away from three things
Reason for doing- It should not be a need for you,your basic needs should be fulfilled by some other sources.
Arm for doing - You should not have weapon in hand any time ,not in your reach.
Opportunity where you can do-Keep away your self from crowd, public places. dark places,weaker communities,cash carrying people.

.please note -u can break this habit ,but will remain as a fun with you

Answer 6

For the Love of God, you must pray to stop this...cutting, in my observation...seems to be a way for a person to validate the bad feelings that a neglectful parent send out...it is like they tell you how crummy you are, and so you feel unloved...when you cut yourself...you then feel like deep inside you want them to reach out and say, I'm sorry,...please don't do that...and when you cut yourself..you are saying, if I am so bad, then I deserve this...so for some reason, you feel actually 'better' about doing it..it is a hidden little ritual that you do to make up for your parents cruel behavior...listen sweetness....please, if you are a person who really loves God and Jesus...then forgive them, as He tells us to do and keep loving them, to make God and Jesus happy...then, say your prayers and stop cutting your self...it isn't going to make them love you any more...they'll just brand you as a mental case to cover up their own shortcomings. Please, forgive them, love them, because in their own way, I know they love you.....Ask the Lord to come into your life and keep saying your prayers that your parents start realizing what is going on...You are and will be in my prayers ...God loves you, Jesus loves you...God Bless

Answer 7

Hi mae, The best advice I can offer you, is that if you genuinely want to stop self harming, then seek out your local mental health agency, and get support while you stop, it will be very hard for you to stop cutting without any support. meanwhile, please visit this self help website for help and some useful information. http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/fself.html I wish you good luck, and hope that you are successful in your attempt to stop.

Answer 8

I'm not a psychologist but I do teach kids with emotional problems. I think you need to talk to a therapist about the reasons for your self abuse and you also may need to talk to someone who can prescribe you with something that can help you deal with the compulsive feelings and/or the general depression symptoms. Please... talk to someone.

Answer 9

have u sought psychological help? this is a illness and needs to be addressed by a professional. Good luck and I wish you the best.

Answer 10

you need to see a doctor and get to the reason you are
cutting or feel the need to cut. a couselor/psychologist will not be judgemental of you they are here to help. good luck and take care!!!