i met up with this guy i liked for 6 years a few months ago and we saw each other for 2 months and texted all the time he told me he was just out of a long term relationship and did want to get into another i feel his relationship ended badly. i told him i couldn't be with him as i feel i am going to end up hurt as i felt he had enough to contend without me adding to his problems as i want a relationsip with him i am mad about him. i pulled away to give him time as i didn't want to be his rebound or his fun while getting over his pass relationship, does it take time to get over a long relationship. am i doing the right thing i am mad about him should i text now and again or just leave him. please help
2006-12-04 21:38:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you've done the right thing although its hard, but there's nothing worse than being someones rebound, a normal reaction of coming out of a long relationship is to go and have fun until the hurt goes...text him now and again to ask him how he's doing that way there's no pressure on him but he'll know your there, just remember you have a life as well don't put it on hold waiting to see whats going to happen, have some fun yourself
2006-12-04 21:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be, for a couple of weeks, then maybe text him to suggest going out for a drink at a local pub. Some relationship bust ups only hurt for a few months, but if the love was deep -grieving for the loss of the relationship might last for upto a year. Go carefully, as to persue him too eagerly may just scare him off. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 23:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are acting very maturely. It takes time to get out of a long term relationship and giving this guy his space is just what is good for him and for you. Right now he is not in a resourceful state and he will need time and effort to being more resourceful. I believe that once he organises himself and he shares the same feelings for you, both of you are going to share a beautiful relationship. Your relationship should be based on a strong foundation. You certainly don't want to build it on the ruins of his ruined relationship. Let him clear all that mess so that his future relationship can be a healthy one.
2006-12-04 21:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by elfworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to u, actually its only u, who can answer this question.
trust ur guts if u feel like he is just using u to feel the empty space or the sadness just forget about him dont waste ur feeling just for that type of guy coz u'll be husr in the end, but if u can feel that he is sincere to what ever he is doing with u just give him time and everything will turn out right, because i am from a long term relationship and we broke up 3 month ago but i am dating somebody right now but its just that i dont want or i am not ready yet to commit myself again, coz i want to make sure this time maybe he feels the same way like i do so like what i told u if you fell like he is sincere just continue ur good deeds so he can be decided to persue what u two guys have, ayt goodluck and be careful and make sure....go girl
2006-12-04 23:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by 00_tyradjh_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to say I admire your principles. But please leave it to him, you have made it clear how you feel so the ball is in his court. If you pursue it now, you may indeed end up getting hurt. After a while, if he feels the same way and would like to pursue the relationship, don't worry he will let you know.
But meanwhile don't just sit at home waiting for the call, get on with your life. Sheila.
2006-12-04 21:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by she shaw sea shore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know how you feel, how 'mad' you are about him and how you want to respect his healing time.
Give him space.
If he comes to you then you guys were meant to be, if he doesnt it means he never really saw you for your real worth.
Im all about making my own destiny but you dont fool with love! Dont bombard him with all these msgs coz it makes you look desperate and its a way to manipulate his feelings and thats wrong, you shouldnt cheat someone into loving you coz theyre in an emotional state.
You dont want to be the woman in the middle because the woman in the middle never wins.
Just let him be for now, keep yourself busy for the next couple of months and let things die down.
2006-12-04 21:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by cheekee_bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over a relationship is to find somebody new. it is in the charachter of the person how long it takes to get over one, for some its just days, for other it's months and for some it is even a year.
i guess the best thing is to text him and ask him if he would like to go and have a cup of coffe with you or to go and see a movie. then see how things go about
take care and good luck
2006-12-04 21:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and seem like you are a reliable person he feels comfortable talking to. From there you can become a good friend and time will change his attitude towards relationships and will definetly look into forming a relationship with you.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 21:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Christian G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years of texting does not make a relationship.
2006-12-04 21:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. Take up a hobby. The right Person will come along some day. Don`t go looking for it.
2006-12-04 21:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋