Iv only been with my boyfriend a couple of weeks but i stay with him everynight and hes told me loads of times he likes me a lot. He was with his ex for about 10 months and she calls him every single day many times. I don't mind but apparently she was a total stunner n she keeps sayin she want to get back with him and that. He hasnt got back with her but he met her the other friday and i think he still cares about her in a way. He says he doesnt wanna be with her but the other night he was on the phone to her for ages and went out of the room, then last night I read a txt on his phone from her saying that he had said he wanted to get back with her n that he'd meet her on friday and then the next day he'd said he wanted nothing to do with her anymore (and she was mad with him). I really don't understand, she knows hes with me and he always tells me he doesnt wanna be with her anymore but Im worried he'l go back to her. I feel like he'l think Im a control freak if I say somethin. Help !!
2006-12-04 21:33:08 · 18 answers · asked by kayley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, did he text her back and say he wanted nothing to do with her? if so, then thats good. but might i add, u have only being seeing him for a couple of weeks, u have absolutely no right to go through his phone!!!! u sound a bit psycho but anyway. He is with u, tell him to tell his ex to stop calling or better yet, change his number.
2006-12-04 21:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear...this is actually not a very complicated situation. He still cares for her,he does like you but unfortunately I think hes with u to forget her...He probably doesn't want to be with her again and they have issues that need to be cleared. My advice-tell him ur leaving him, tell him to really talk to her and when they really break up he can call you. It's not fair of him to be with u, telling u he likes u and talk to her every day. Doesn't matter that she calls him. And by all means say something, show him ur a person with feelings and thoughts and, honey, you probably can do much better. U don't need this in ur life, right? Think of yourself as a special and unique, beautiful and all that. Show him u respect yourself. Good luck...
2006-12-04 21:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by atlantis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is happening is wrong. he won't think that you are a control freak if you talk to him about the situation, after all you have rights too. tell him that it's either you or her. i think it is fine if they both be friends, but not call him everyday and meet him. he seems that he has more feelings for you than he has for her, but you do not have to cope with this. if he has ended up with her and now has you, there has to be a relationship with only two people and not three. after all, he is not doing any good to his ex anyway. he is hurting you both in this way. just tell him to tell her that it is now time that she moves on.
good luck :)
2006-12-04 21:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with being honest. Just cause youre gonna say something doesn't mean its controlling. Simply say that it bugs you. Tell him that you trust him but not her, and her intentions, your not telling him to do anything but express how much it makes you feel unsettled and worried. Just be honest. If he was a gentleman, and you are on top of his list, he will stop. If he doesn't, well, you have to decide how long you can allow this to happen and if you can live with it.
2006-12-04 21:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still seeing her on the side. If she's a "stunner" and wants him so bad, he's probably going to choose her over the chick who's snooping through his phone. You might need to step your game up if you want to stay in the picture. You might want to consider anal, or ask a close friend to join you.
2006-12-04 21:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer to this question, if you trust him then you obviously believe what he tells you, but if you are having misgivings about the relationship and it feels like you are then you should just leave and tell him when he has made up his mind to which of you he wants then he should give you a call.
2006-12-04 21:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tiffany, he needs to figure out whats going on with himself before he starts something new. I would definitly not be comfortable with my boyfriend talking to any girl on the phone like that unless it was a family member. If he was really interested in you, he would respect you by not having anything to do with her. Dump him and get a real man.
2006-12-04 21:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF it has only been a couple of a weeks maybe cut your ties now,or you be the bigger person and say i think you have somethings to work out ,give me a call when you do .i don't understand why women give men all the power.anyways good luck what ever you do.
2006-12-04 21:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i feel there are sometimes you just have to hit it right on the head.it's not like you see anything wrong in her calling,but i mean when it startes getting out of hand that is just something else.If he really does not want to be with her like he says then he should not be entertaining her calls or messages .so pls just tell him how you feel and you don't like it am not saying you should treating him, but i mean if he does not know who he want to be with then that is just to bad for him, so he must know that he can't eat his cake and have it.
2006-12-04 21:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your situation is soooo complicated. It seems as if your boyfriend still has a string attach to his ex.Why do they talk for so long on the phone everyday?It seems as if he still love her and is trying to forget her by being with you. Be firm with him ask him to choose whether he wants you to continue being his girl or if he wants to go back to his ex. it seems as if he can't make a decision.
Good Luck
2006-12-04 22:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋