How would you react if somebody tried to impose their parental methods on you?

Question

And basically tell you that you're not raising your kids well, that they've got better techniques that you must follow.

Answer 1

try to read the beast book on earth and see what you want in it. I am sure you will find the Answer that your looking for. look for raising your kids. if you doing what you should do then tell them about what you did understand from the book. and they will understand if they did not get it then live them.

Answer 2

They are called in-laws. If mine had their way my now year old son would most likely be severely allergic to milk since they wanted to start him on it when he was 2 months old. He would also be quite over weight for his age because they would feed him all the time and whatever they felt like feeding him since he was born and here is the kicker, my son would probably be addicted to alcohol. No joke. They think it is funny to put empty (you know empty with a few drops left) alcohol bottles by him and watch him tip the bottle in his mouth getting those last little drops out. They also hold him while drinking knowing that he will grab the bottle and try to drink out of it.

If that isn't bad enough when we tell them not to do something their response is "How many kids have you raised?" The sad thing is they don't really know much about their 2 oldest kids. Our solution was not to say anything but then they asked my husband to go over to their house and they proceeded to tell him that basically I am an unfit mother because I don't hold our son to put him to sleep, I let him cry to much, and that I don't play with him enough.

We have not spoken to them in about 2 months and don't plan on it anytime soon. And our answer to their question is that we would rather have quality in knowing our one child then the quantity of children.

Answer 3

Sometimes the interference comes from a person you cannot avoid, like a mother, sister or a mother in law, in that case it would be very difficult to hurt their feelings, all you can do in that case is just listen to them, as if u accept their way and then do whatever you like, it is your home and your kids, nobody can force you to change anything, if the person was not so close just tell them that you are comfortable with your own way.

Answer 4

Depends on the source, but most of them would not get anything from me. I sometimes feel this way with someone I have to have a good relationship with, and basically, I vent about them all the time and try to avoid them.

Answer 5

Ask them to show you there parental credentials
and diplomas.

And as soon as they show you there paper work
you will follow there parental methods.

Until then you know what is best for your children.

Since day one mothers have learned on there own
how to best care for there children.

No one is best at anything, everyone learns alone the way.

That is why the saying (live and learn)

Answer 6

I'd tell them to piss off.

I see many other people who do things much differently than I do. Many times I think what they are doing is inefficiant or just backwards. I think to myself "my way is better." Well...maybe my way is better for ME. Maybe their way works for them. Just because it wouldn't suit me doesn't mean it doesn't work for someone else. So, I keep my opinions to myself and I think others should do the same. No one has the magical formula for parenting and what works for one family doesn't always work for another. Thinking your way is the best and only way for everyone is just self centered.

Answer 7

Politely tell them that you appreciate the input, but if they don't like the way you are raising your children, then maybe they should come around anymore.

Answer 8

I'd probably would thank them for their advice..kindly tell them it is really not necessary..Also,be very pissed off at the same time for having the nerve to try to tell me how they "think" I should be raising My child!!You are the best at raising your own children..No one else!!

Answer 9

I would be thinking what am I doing wrong, have they reason to say this, are my kids out of control, then decide what to say to them.

Answer 10

Tell them " that may work well for you but I prefer to do it another way. There's more than one way to skin a pole cat".