I have tolerated my daughter and her beau for sometime concerning the snogging etc...but there comes a point when my younger son and I feel intrusive in their exclusiveness when we are all watching telly or talking. not only that it sounds like face sucking...ugh..I'm no prude but when does this intimacy become unacceptable. I have mentioned it too her (shes 18 and he 20) and now she has gone into a major strop about it. My son is 11 and he gets fed up with them and leaves the room he gets so embarassed. She has the privacy of her own room as well???
I really don't want too see such intimacy with my daughter, am I being unfair??
2006-12-04 21:04:29 · 20 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no you are not!! I can't believe she is comfortable doing this infront of you! and at the age of 18 she should no better by now she sounds very childish him too. If my boyfriend had tried to kiss me like that infront of my parents I would have been mortified!! you shouldn't be chased away from your own living room like this she needs to grow up and take responsibilty for her actions. cuddles and little pecks now and then between them is fine but not full blown tonsil tennis in front of you and the boy. Get a one of those soda canisters and fill it with water every time they go in for the kiss give them a spray they will soon get the hint. and retreat to the bedroom.
2006-12-04 21:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason your daughter doesn't take her boyfriend to the bedroom; teenagers do this in front of their parents when they are worried they'll go too far in private. (Or get off on the audience). She really is getting a bit old for doing this and having strops. You're not being unreasonable.
So either way, you have a problem. You must put your foot down and insist she stops, its embarassing to everyone else for starters. Its YOUR front room! You should be able to feel comfortable in the evening!
Never mind her strops, this is her problem and she has to figure out something else to do instead.
Good luck with it.
2006-12-04 21:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's bad manners to go over the top with public displays of affection like that. Your daughter should have more respect for you. You're not being unfair at all. If I was in your situation, I just wouldn't tolerate it. She's got the privacy of her room, and really, doing that sorta stuff is stupid anywhere else. Doesn't it take the romance out of things?
2006-12-04 23:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having two daughters,now married with children ,who new
the house rules that were laid down, we never had such
a performance you and your family are having to put up
with.
Rule one was if you perform as you want so your mother
and i will do as you do,.
Try doing it and see what your daughters reaction will be.
So tell her and her chap the house rules and how it affects the
rest of the family get the wife on your side,you don`t mention her thoughts on this ? it stops or all boy friends are barred.
I did and never had a problem same went for our four boys,
also now all married with kids.
HOUSE RULES NEEDED.PS sorry if you are lady of house
presumed you were dad
2006-12-04 21:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being unfair. This behaviour is completely inappropriate in front of other people and at 18 and 20 they're a bit old for it too.
Are they trying to prove to everyone just how 'in love' they are or what?
If she has her own room they should be intimate in there - after all it's not exactly intimate when your mum and little brother are in the room is it? More like showing off!
Stick to your guns...
2006-12-04 21:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I would accept witnessing a peck on the cheek and the lips but only a peck...they shouldn't be going full force in front of you (unless it's a wedding kiss). Seems a bit disrespectful to me. I have been married for over 5 years and still wouldn't give my hubby more than a peck or a squeeze in front of anyone, it's just disrespectful and uncomfortable for anyone to witness a make-out session. Certain things should occur behind closed doors and other things are just a controlled show of love for someone.
2006-12-04 21:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope! She has her own room so she should use it!
and then everyone would be happy. Unfortunatly she is just being selfish and not considering others. You are not over reacting, tell her she can suck his face off else wear. I would have thought she wouldn't want to snog someone like that in front of her father, Do what the rest of us did and find somewhere quiet to do that sort of thing!!
2006-12-04 21:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rob S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to the bloke about it, he would probably be more likely to take you seriously.
And no you are not being unfair, it's your house and trying to concentrate when all you can hear is your daughter sucking the face off some bloke is disgusting and unnacceptable, especially with children in the room
2006-12-04 21:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly your daughter should be making a good impression on your son so it's time for you to put your foot down. Secondly your daughters boyfriend needs to be pulled aside and told that it your house and to have some respect for you and your family. They have the option of going to her room which most parents wouldn't even allow but when they have that option and are still ignoring your comments it's not very fair.
2006-12-04 23:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by jinglebells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ealier you put your feet down on how you want the girl to grow the better, sitting her down to unerstand that the freedom she is working out for herself is not morally alright and very ungodly...that is if you are a christian. let her know the effect of early immorality engagement, explain the digiity of womanhood, she should come in terms with why she was created and what she should be more involved and care about at her age. let her be your little friend....confidant.
2006-12-04 21:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by merunny007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋