I have this friend who asked a guy out and moved in with him.
It ended badly.
4 months ago she told me shed NEVER do that again. NEVER.
Just found out yesterday that shes signing a lease tomorrow
so her new bf of 2 months can move into an apt with her. He agreed to pay the rent if she put it in her name.
He cant sign, his credit is bad.
Oh, friends tell me hes a jerk and kind of an azzhole.
Two months ago she was whining about how "old fashioned" she is................... since when is shacking up with her 2 month guy she met at a bar old fashioned?
Why are females like this?
Confused in Los Angeles.......
2006-12-04 20:37:20 · 17 answers · asked by elisioloyd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think women are idiots. (Most women I guess I should say).
They seem to enjoy putting themselves in that sort of situation, being with guys like that.
But many many women are hypocrites.
2006-12-04 20:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since I don't know your friend's personality and character (or financial situation) , I'll just give a few general answers from what I've seen of guys and girls.
She may be doing this because she hates (or is afraid) to live alone or even sleep alone (not for sex but for "security and comfort").
She may be doing this because she is looking for love - or the "right guy", or just a relationship.
She may be doing this because she really doesn't know what she wants and has been "talked into" living with this guy. Looking on the outside, others would say that this is dumb or that the girl is weak-minded, or a hoe, or whatever, but she may be confused or depressed, or searching for some type of balance in her life, so she'll try anything to make her life "better".
She may feel this is her best option. Again, we don't know her financial situation.
This new guy could have "convinced" her that it would be a good idea for the both of them to move in together and that they could help each other. So, she may be doing this also because she's an approval-seeker (moving in to make this new guy happy or because it would benefit him).
But don't just criticize her if she's a good friend of yours. Talk to her and find out what's really going on inside of her head. IT COULD BE ANYTHING. We don't know what's "wrong" with your friend. She MAY BE depressed, or an approval-seeker, or lonely, or desperate for balance in her life, or whatever.
I know it makes you angry because you are a close friend and don't want to see anyone hurt her or her hurt herself (or her reputation!) but you have to try to be empathetic. Talk to her and find out "what's up".
You can help her out a lot more by listening than you can by criticizing.
DzL (AsP)
The Player's Lifestyle
2006-12-04 21:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, your a very good friend to her or your in love with her yourself. Either way it doesnt matter. Its obvisous it something in her character. Some people set themselves up for failure, some are born victims. Perhaps if you like to help her over come this you could recommend she see someone. I dont believe people delibrately go out to make the same mistakes. Maybe she is just trying to secure what she believes is love. Dont stop careing, but dont always fix her problems.
There is a saying if you give a man crutches, he forgets how to walk!!!! Just be there as the friend you are, but dont be responsible for her choices.
2006-12-04 20:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by kedi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some females like this but she was probably telling you she would never do it again so you wouldn't judge her. She is obviously searching for love in all the wrong places and it looks like she will never learn and some people never learn from mistakes. You can either stand by and watch it or you can forget about her it is your choice but don't judge all women on her actions.
2006-12-04 20:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by nik 28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's kind of idiotic to assume females in general are like this based on ONE female, but anyway...
Sounds like she's got the hots for bad boy types and either doesn't have the maturity or just doesn't want to control it.
2006-12-04 20:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont judge females based on the actions of your 1 female friend. I think you like this female friend of yours and you are too hurt by the fact that she is moving in with someone else.
What you should be doing is call her up and telll her how wot she has done really makes you feel.
Dont go disrespecting tha sistas, maybe you are the idiot so i dont blame your female friend for not moving in with you.
2006-12-04 21:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by buttercup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some females are like that. I personally think her IQ is a little low for making the same mistake twice. Hes going to freeload, and when she has no more money, he'll split.
2006-12-04 20:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by apocolypses_solar_storm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because they are in eternal search for love and companionship which is very difficult to find.So thy need to keep on experimenting till they get positive reslts
2006-12-04 20:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by money money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't generalize... you are talking about one female here... rather ask for advice on how to help her, or how to get out of the friendship.
If I followed your train of thought I could ask- I could ask - are all guys this dumb - there's this girl who keeps making the same stupid mistake and instead of either helping her or telling her to go away, there's this guy who gets annoyed but does nothing about it!!...
Secure in S.A.
2006-12-04 20:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Huh!? What have you been doing? You're her friend, right? Get her to divert her attention to something else. It seems like her life is revolving around 'affairs' only.
2006-12-04 20:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by allan.sarabia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋